The 7-year itch is now the 3-year glitch
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Posted:Mar 9, 2011 4:22 pm
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LONDON (Reuters) – The "three-year glitch" has replaced the "seven-year itch" as the tipping point where couples start to take each other for granted, according to a new survey.
Weight gain, stinginess, toe-nail clippings on the bathroom floor and snoring are a few of the passion-killers that have led to a swifter decline in relationships in the fast-paced 21st century, said the study commissioned by Warner Brothers to promote the release of comedy film "Hall Pass" in UK cinemas.
The survey of 2,000 British adults in steady relationships pinpointed the 36-month mark as the time when relationship stress levels peak and points to a new trend of "pink passes" and "solo" holidays away from partners and spouses that many Britons resort to in order to keep romance alive.
"Longer working hours combined with money worries are clearly taking their toll on modern relationships and we are seeing an increasing trend for solo holidays and weekends away from marriages and relationships in order to revive the romantic spark," said pollster Judi James who oversaw the survey.
The poll compared feedback from those in short-term relationships (defined as less than three years) and people who were married or in longer-term partnerships.
The findings showed that 67 percent of all of those surveyed said that small irritations which are seemingly harmless and often endearing during the first flushes of love often expand into major irritations around 36 months.
More than half of the Brits surveyed (52 percent) who were in younger relationships said they enjoyed sexual relations at least three times a week, compared to just 16 percent of those in relationships older than three years.
This suggests that as we get older together, romance gives way to day to day practicalities, supported by the fact that 55 percent of busy people in longer-term relationships admit that they now have to "schedule" their romantic time.
The report also said that those in the first flush of love can look forward to an average of three compliments a week from their partners - a figure which falls to an average of a single weekly compliment at the three-year high tide mark.
The prognosis gets worse the longer we stay in relationships, three in 10 of those surveyed that have been in a relationship for five years or more said that they never receive any compliments from their partners.
The findings also showed that more than three quarters (76 percent) of all people surveyed responded that "individual space was important" within a relationship and pointed to a rise of individual activities.
A third (34 percent) of those who have been seeing their partners for longer than three years have at least two evenings a month defined as a "pass" or a "ticket" where it is accepted that they can pursue their own interests and 58 percent of the same sample group enjoy regular holidays without their partners.
The top 10 everyday niggles and passion-killers: 1. Weight gain/lack of exercise, 13 percent; 2. money & Spend thriftiness, 11 percent; 3. Anti-social working hours, 10 percent; 4. Hygiene issues (personal cleanliness), 9 percent; 5. In-Laws/extended family - too much/too little, 9 percent; 6. Lack of romance (sex, treats etc.), 8 percent; 7. Alcohol - drinking too much, 7 percent; 8. Snoring & anti social bedtime habits, 6 percent; 9. Lapsed fashion-Same old underwear/clothes, 4 percent; 10. Bathroom habits - Stray nail cuttings etc., 4 percent.
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5 health reasons to not quit coffee.
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Posted:Mar 8, 2011 9:47 pm
Last Updated:Mar 9, 2011 5:39 pm
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By Kerri-Ann Jennings, M.S., R.D., Associate Nutrition Editor at EatingWell Magazine
I really like coffee. The morning ritual of brewing a cup, the smell that perks me up before I take a sip and, of course, the flavor all make it my favorite beverage aside from water (water’s delicious!). As a registered dietitian and a nutrition editor for EatingWell Magazine, I know that coffee is fine in moderation. It has lots of antioxidants and is low in calories if you don’t load it up with cream and sugar. Nonetheless, I always feel slightly guilty about drinking it—you know, in a “it’s so good, it must be bad” kind of way.
Which is why I’m always delighted to hear of new reasons that coffee is good for your health...and there are plenty! Over 18,000 studies on coffee have been published in the past few decades, revealing these benefits.
1. It protects your heart: Moderate coffee drinkers (1 to 3 cups/day) have lower rates of stroke than noncoffee drinkers, an effect linked to coffee’s antioxidants. Coffee has more antioxidants per serving than blueberries, making it the biggest source of antioxidants in American diets. All those antioxidants may help suppress the damaging effect of inflammation on arteries. Immediately after drinking it, coffee raises your blood pressure and heart rate, but over the long term, it actually may lower blood pressure as coffee’s antioxidants activate nitric oxide, widening blood vessels.
2. It diverts diabetes: Those antioxidants (chlorogenic acid and quinides, specifically) play another role: boosting your cells’ sensitivity to insulin, which helps regulate blood sugar. In fact, people who drink 4 or more cups of coffee each day may have a lower risk of developing type 2 diabetes, according to some studies. Other studies have shown that caffeine can blunt the insulin-sensitivity boost, so if you do drink several cups a day, try mixing in decaf occasionally.
3. Your liver loves it: OK, so the research here is limited, but it looks like the more coffee people drink, the lower their incidence of cirrhosis and other liver diseases. One analysis of nine studies found that every 2-cup increase in daily coffee intake reduced liver cancer risk by 43 percent. Again, it’s those antioxidants—chlorogenic and caffeic acids—and caffeine that might prevent liver inflammation and inhibit cancer cells.
4. It boosts your brain power: Drinking between 1 and 5 cups a day (admittedly a big range) may help reduce risk of dementia and Alzheimer’s disease, as well as Parkinson’s disease, studies suggest. Those antioxidants may ward off brain cell damage and help the neurotransmitters involved in cognitive function to work better.
5. It helps your headaches: And not just the withdrawal headaches caused by skipping your daily dose of caffeine! Studies show that 200 milligrams of caffeine—about the amount in 16 ounces of brewed coffee—provides relief from headaches, including migraines. Exactly how caffeine relieves headaches isn’t clear. But scientists do know that caffeine boosts the activity of brain cells, causing surrounding blood vessels to constrict. One theory is that this constriction helps to relieve the pressure that causes the pain, says Robert Shapiro, M.D., Ph.D., associate professor of neurology and director of the Headache Clinic at the University of Vermont Medical School.
Now, that’s not to say that coffee doesn’t have any pitfalls—it does. Some people are super-sensitive to caffeine and get jittery or anxious after drinking coffee; habitual coffee drinkers usually develop a tolerance to caffeine that eliminates this problem (but they then need the caffeine to be alert and ward off withdrawal headaches). Coffee can also disturb sleep, especially as people age. Cutting some of the caffeine and drinking it earlier in the day can curb this effect. Lastly, unfiltered coffee (like that made with a French press) can raise LDL cholesterol, so use a filter for heart health.
But if you like coffee and you can tolerate it well, enjoy it...without the guilt.
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5 signs she’s into you
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Posted:Feb 25, 2011 3:54 pm
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by Cate Mitchell 
You and a pretty redhead are tucked away in a corner table at that impossible-to-get-into new French bistro. And lo and behold, you notice she’s laughing at your jokes, twirling her hair, and giving other crystal-clear signs she’s into you. Or is she? Problem is, it can be hard to tell sometimes whether a woman is truly interested or just going through the motions. But luckily, there are plenty of ways to tell the difference. The signs below are the real deal.
1. She touches herself up
If she’s excusing herself to the restroom between courses, it’s doubtful she has a weak bladder. Nope, more likely she’s in there freshening up her makeup or making sure her hair is in place... all for you. “If she’s into you, she’ll be concerned with how she looks,” says Alison James, author of the forthcoming Better Off Wed? “Or, if she’s at the table, she’ll be fixing her shirt or brushing her hair back, maybe checking that her bra strap isn’t showing or adjusting her necklace — the kind of stuff you do when you’re worried about your appearance
2. She asks about your family
“When a woman likes a guy, she doesn’t want to get to know just him,” says Jillian Straus, author of Unhooked Generation: The Truth About Why We’re Still Single. “She wants to know about his family and friends — she’s looking for clues about what life with him would be like.” Indeed, especially if you’ve been set up or are on a blind date and know very little about each other, your relationship with your family says a lot about you — and a woman interested in you won’t hesitate to probe. “I think family is very revealing about a person’s personality,” says Tina Andreadis, 35, of New York City. “If he’s close with his family, it shows that he’s probably a warm person who values relationships and who would want a family of his own. If I am not interested in him, I won’t even ask because I just don’t care.”
3. She’s attentive
Let’s put it this way: no matter how busy she is, she’s not whipping out her BlackBerry if she’s interested in what you have to say. “If she’s not checking her watch, email or cell phone, it’s just one more sign that she’s paying attention to you,” says James. “When you like a guy, you’re hanging on his every word. When you don’t, you’re distracted easily.” Same goes for any preoccupations she has with the immediate environment, whether she’s people-watching or admiring the restaurant décor or even the food. If she’s saying things like, “This restaurant is beautiful. Hey, doesn’t that girl over there look like Marisa Tomei?” she may be enjoying herself, but not necessarily because you’re there.
4. She’s touchy-feely
If you find your date engaging in a little physical contact along with witty banter, chances are you’ve made a very good impression. From tapping your knee to emphasize a point or touching your forearm to get your attention, if a woman’s attracted to you, she won’t hesitate to reach out and let you know. Megan, 35, from New York City, employs this trick with guys she finds attractive. “I pretend to steady myself when I don’t need to be steadied,” she says. “When I’m climbing onto a stool, I’ll grab onto his shoulder or leg when I clearly don’t need to,” she laughs.
5. The date lasts longer than you expected
Ask any woman desperate to wind down a date, and she’ll tell you she skips dessert or declines an after-dinner stroll. Naturally, then, if she’s having a great time and doesn’t want to see you go, she’ll gladly take the waiter’s suggestion and try the chocolate cake, or join you in the cab ride home. And if you’ve agreed to meet for coffee and after a few sips she takes you up on your offer of dinner? That’s a bright green light, my friend. “Only if I’m into the guy will I agree to go to dinner if he suggests it on a ‘meet for coffee’ date,” says Diana, a 38-year-old from Boston. “If I’m meeting a guy and I’m not into him, I’m definitely not going to agree to get food after.”
So now that you know the signs that she’s really enjoying your time together, use them! Ask her for another date, have a goodnight hug or smooch... and things should move in a most positive direction.
Cate Mitchell is a freelance writer in New York City.
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Hope...
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Posted:Feb 22, 2011 1:57 am
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2011 3:58 am
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I'm sorry but I don't want to be an Emperor - that's not my business - I don't want to rule or conquer anyone. I should like to help everyone if possible, Jew, gentile, black man, white. We all want to help one another, human beings are like that.
We all want to live by each others happiness, not by each others misery. We don't want to hate and despise one another. In this world there is room for everyone and the earth is rich and can provide for everyone.
The way of life can be free and beautiful.
But we have lost the way.
Greed has poisoned men's souls - has barricaded the world with hate; has goose-stepped us into misery and bloodshed.
We have developed speed but we have shut ourselves in: machinery that gives abundance has left us in want. Our knowledge has made us cynical, our cleverness hard and unkind. We think too much and feel too little: More than machinery we need humanity; More than cleverness we need kindness and gentleness. Without these qualities, life will be violent and all will be lost.
The aeroplane and the internet have brought us closer together. The very nature of these inventions cries out for the goodness in men, cries out for universal brotherhood for the unity of us all. Even now my words are reaching millions throughout the world, millions of despairing men, women and little , victims of a system that makes men torture and imprison innocent people. To those who can hear me I say "Do not despair".
The misery that is now upon us is but the passing of greed, the bitterness of men who fear the way of human progress: the hate of men will pass and dictators die and the power they took from the people, will return to the people and so long as men die.. liberty will never perish...
Soldiers - don't give yourselves to brutes, men who despise you and enslave you - who regiment your lives, tell you what to do, what to think and what to feel, who drill you, diet you, treat you as cattle, as cannon fodder.
Don't give yourselves to these unnatural men, machine men, with machine minds and machine hearts. You are not machines. You are not cattle. You are men. You have the love of humanity in your hearts. You don't hate - only the unloved hate. Only the unloved and the unnatural. Soldiers - don't fight for slavery, fight for liberty.
In the seventeenth chapter of Saint Luke it is written " the kingdom of God is within man " - not one man, nor a group of men - but in all men - in you, the people.
You the people have the power, the power to create machines, the power to create happiness. You the people have the power to make life free and beautiful, to make this life a wonderful adventure. Then in the name of democracy let's use that power - let us all unite. Let us fight for a new world, a decent world that will give men a chance to work, that will give you the future and old age and security. By the promise of these things, brutes have risen to power, but they lie. They do not fulfil their promise, they never will. Dictators free themselves but they enslave the people. Now let us fight to fulfil that promise. Let us fight to free the world, to do away with national barriers, do away with greed, with hate and intolerance. Let us fight for a world of reason, a world where science and progress will lead to all men's happiness.
Soldiers - in the name of democracy, let us all unite!
Look up! The clouds are lifting - the sun is breaking through. We are coming out of the darkness into the light. We are coming into a new world. A kindler world where men will rise above their hate, their greed, and brutality.
Look up! The soul of man has been given wings - and at last he is beginning to fly. He is flying into the rainbow - into the light of hope - into the future, that glorious future that belongs to you, to me and to all of us. Look up. Look up.
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Jar of Hearts
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Posted:Feb 14, 2011 2:01 pm
Last Updated:Feb 18, 2011 10:11 am
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I know I can’t take one more step towards you. Cause all thats waiting is regret. And don’t you know I’m not your ghost anymore. You lost the love I loved the most.
I learned to live, half alive, and now you want me one more time.
And who do you think you are? Runnin’ round leaving scars. Collecting your jar of hearts, and tearing love apart. You’re gonna catch a cold from the ice inside your soul. So don’t come back for me. Who do you think you are?
I hear you’re asking all around. If I am anywhere to be found. But I have grown too strong. To ever fall back in your arms.
I've learned to live, half alive, and now you want me one more time.
And who do you think you are? Runnin’ round leaving scars. Collecting your jar of hearts, and tearing love apart. You’re gonna catch a cold from the ice inside your soul. So don’t come back for me. Who do you think you are?
It took so long just to feel alright. Remember how to put back the light in my eyes. I wish I had missed the first time that we kissed. Cause you broke all your promises, and now you’re back. You don’t get to get me back.
And who do you think you are? Runnin’ round leaving scars. Collecting your jar of hearts, and tearing love apart. You’re gonna catch a cold from the ice inside your soul. So don’t come back for me. Don't come back at all...
And who do you think you are? Runnin’ round leaving scars. Collecting your jar of hearts, and tearing love apart. You’re gonna catch a cold from the ice inside your soul. So don’t come back for me. Don't come back at all...
Who do you think you are?
Who do you think you are?
Who do you think.......... you are?
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Faith of the Heart
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Posted:Feb 8, 2011 5:27 pm
Last Updated:May 26, 2024 7:10 pm
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It's been a long road, Getting from there to here. It's been a long time, but my time is finally here.
It's been a long night, Trying to find my way. Been thru the darkness, Now I finally have my day.
I know the wind's so cold, I've seen the darkest days. But now the winds I feel, Are only winds of change. I've been thru the fire, And I've been thru the rain, But I'll be fine.
And I can feel a change in the wind right now. Nothing's in my way. And they're not gonna hold me down no more. No they're not gonna hold me down.
And I will see my dream come alive at last. I will touch the sky. And they're not gonna hold me down no more. No they're not gonna change my mind.
'Cause I've got faith of the heart. I'm going where my heart will take me. I've got faith to believe. I can do anything. I've got strength of the soul. And no one's going to bend or break me. I can reach any star. 'Cause I've got faith, I've got faith, Faith of the heart...
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6 mistakes men make on Valentine's Day
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Posted:Feb 3, 2011 5:23 pm
Last Updated:Feb 3, 2011 5:34 pm
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Memo to men: Valentine’s Day is on February 14. In years past, Y has noticed a spike in men searching for an answer to the question: “When is Valentine's Day?” as the day fast approaches. Of all the holidays on the yearly calendar, the one designated for romance never fails to trip guys up. Blame mixed messages: While retailers consider the holiday worthy of diamonds, many women take the stance that it's no big deal.
Don’t fall for any of it. Valentines Day is when a guy’s affection, compatibility, and commitment are put to the test. Forgetting the day is just the first mistake to avoid. There are six other common mistakes men make on February 14. Here's a cheat sheet.
Mistake #1: Getting words of wisdom from your local drug store.There's a time and a place for Hallmark poetry and it's never on Valentine's Day. No matter how cursive, heartfelt, and close-to-home the text, you still didn't write it.
Why it’s bad: Women want to feel special. Giving a card that’s designed to cater to millions of women on Valentine’s Day sends the message that your love is a lot like everyone else's. It also suggests you bought some Rite Guard in the next aisle while you were at it. Nobody wants to feel like one of two birds.
The fix: Cliché as it seems, the thought really does count. More than 75 percent of women claim to want nothing more than a heart-felt love letter on February 14. Relationship psychologist Dr. Terri Orbuch also suggests a personal note trumps even chocolate. "Which says 'I love you' more: a box of candy or a handwritten note telling your partner you'd still choose him/her if you had to do it all over again?" asks Orbuch. "Show your partner why he/she matters so much to you."
Mistake #2: Letting a bear do your bidding. Stuffed animal tricks are for . Giving your special lady a teddy bear holding a balloon with a pun like "I Yearn Fur You" is sweet if you're both in junior high. But in a poll by ShopRunner, a women's shopping site, members claimed teddy bears were the worst gift they had ever received on February 14. Flowers and chocolates (standard accompaniments to the stuffed animal) aren't going to win her over either.
Why it's bad: A stuffed animal not only suggests you don't take your partner seriously, it's also generic. Flowers, candy, and anything that's stamped "buy this for Valentine's Day" suggests limited thought went into the gift.
The fix: Don't run to your nearest jeweler. It's not about the money—besides, a dozen roses and a build-a-bear don't come cheap. "In fact, depending on where a couple is in their relationship, extravagant gifts like expensive lingerie or fancy chocolates can seem overwhelming," "If you've just started dating, a big gift can imply more depth to the relationship than is really there. It can also be awkward if the guy splurges on a big Valentine's gift, but the woman doesn't do the same." Instead, find a simple gift that shows you've been listening to your lady, like a DVD of her favorite series, or a book by an author she's mentioned. Dr. Orbuch has a more direct approach: "Think of something your partner really needs," she says. "Get the car detailed. Replace her tattered briefcase. It may not sound romantic, but thoughtfulness is a turn-on and shows you really care about your partner."
Mistake #3: Declaring Valentine’s Day a ploy for consumers.No matter how you rationalize it, the holiday is not going away. Even if your partner trumps your own disdain for the day, the risk of going along with her is too great.
Why it’s bad: It feels like an excuse. Despite all the arguments against the day, it comes down to celebrating your relationship. “In the larger picture, cultural rituals like Valentine’s Day structure opportunities to do good things that we could do any day, but usually do not,” writes social scientist Bill Doherty in Psychology Today. “The year I took my wife to Subway on February 14 was the low point. Eventually I realized that the cost of minimizing Valentine’s Day—the disappointment and the missed opportunity to connect—is greater than the benefits of maintaining my freedom to be spontaneously romantic on my own timetable.”
The fix: If if really pains you to observe the date, celebrate your valentine the day before. You can also keep it low-key. Dinner is optional. The most important thing is to set aside time to talk about things that aren't "important." "Have a 10-minute conversation with your partner about anything besides , work, money, or domestic responsibilities," says Orbuch. "I found that the '10 Minute Rule,' practiced daily, increases intimacy, bonding, and happiness." Take a drive or rent the movie you watched on your first date: external triggers that don't cause stress can help take you back to the way you were before your everyday lives trumped romance.
Mistake #4: Sharing the day with your BlackBerry
One in five guys will text their loving message on Valentine’s Day and one in ten will take to email. As sweet as 140 characters can be, old-school letters are more romantic. One survey found the obvious: women would be disappointed by an electronic gesture of affection.
Why it’s bad: In terms of effort, it’s minimal. It also brings a third party into your affair: your P.D.A. (your Personal Digital Assistant, not public displays of affection). It should be a given to turn it off during your candlelit dinner, but using it to profess love is detached.
The fix: Buy a blank card or take a photo of the two of you and write a message on the back. It doesn't have to be long, it can even be a quote from your favorite song. But in this technological world, handwriting holds a certain intimacy. If words just aren't your thing, make a mix CD and write out the songs in pen. Your music choices will do the talking.
Mistake #5: Expecting her to make the plans. In the United States, 64 percent of men do not make V-day plans in advance. That can be a problem when at least 30 percent of women expect guys to map out the entire evening, according to Women's Health. Who's right? Who cares. To avoid conflict, just make a plan.
Why it’s bad: Making plans is a sign of commitment, even if they're not exactly what your partner had in mind. The task of putting forethought into your time together suggests you see a future together. It may sound like a leap, but on Valentine's Day, it's nothing to take lightly.
The fix: Even if you’re strapped for cash or shut out from overbooked restaurants on what might be the busiest day for reservations, there's still hope. Preparing a meal she’ll love or simply plating a prepared meal on a candle-lit table will do the job. Providing dessert and a little wine will suggest you’ve really put thought into the night, even if you just went to the supermarket.
Mistake #6: Under-dressing Don't wear jeans. No matter how well they fit, denims are not invited to your romantic evening for two.
Why it's bad: It suggests the day isn't as important to you as it it may be to her. Plus, getting a little dressed up adds an element of excitement that breaks the casual routine you may share on a standard date night. And excitement boosts oxytocin, the bonding hormone released during new, exciting activities that brings couples together.
The fix: Whether you're staying in or partying like a rock star, let Daniel Craig, aka James Bond, be your style muse, says men's fashion site Dappered. For a night in, try casual khakis and a crisp white shirt, like Craig wore during a scene in an Italian villa in "Quantum of Solace." For a red carpet look, try a skinny tie, or a slim-lined gray suit, like Craig has donned at premieres.
by Piper Weiss, Shine Staff
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Tonight's WORD: Rome is Burning!!!
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Posted:Jan 27, 2011 11:47 pm
Last Updated:Sep 5, 2012 5:45 am
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"These are the times that try men's souls." Or are they just the Days of our lives? We reach a point in our life where the drama must end. Where all our yesterdays are filled with lighted fools.
In some corners of today's Hookup.Date Naughty Affair Dating that point has been reached.
There are far too many hateful, slanderous, and vile assaults occurring every day on Hookup.Date Naughty Affair Dating. Some rooms are run like Puppet dictatorships. With a few twisted Neros' pulling the strings of the Morlocks who reside there. While the other villagers & visitors remain dumb founded by what daily occurs.
Evil does seek to maintain power by suppressing the truth. Or by misleading the innocent.
No one cries out "Enough"
There's the respect that makes calamity of such inaction.
It puzzles the will, And make us rather bear those ills we have
than fly to others that we know not of? Thus conscience does make cowards of us all.
With the pale cast of thought And enterprises of great pith and moment With this regard their currents turn away, And lose the name of action.
"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good people do nothing."
Has the clock struck "High Noon"? Will the townsfolk hold fast to a credo of "not my issue"? Were are the people of good conscience? Where are the good Samaritans?
There are times when people must step forward and say:
"Enough" "Enough" for god sakes "ENOUGH!"
Who will step forward to challenge the status quo? The reign of these petty tyrants must end. We must restore the freedom to pursuit happiness and cordial chat.
"Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player, That struts and frets his hour upon the stage, And then is heard no more. It is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, Signifying nothing."
It will take more then one individual to stand up to these odious troglodytes. They sit there back on their asses and are deliberately killing an idea that's made people a little bit happier!
An idea that's brought thousands of them here from all over the world —so they could pass on to each other their own simple little experiences.
I'm beginning to understand a lot of things. Why, their type's as old as history. If they can't lay their dirty fingers on a decent idea and twist it and squeeze it and stuff it into their own pocket, they slap it down! Like dogs, if they can't eat something, they bury it!
Why, this is one worthwhile thing that's come along. People are flirting, joking and fooling around having a little break from their stressful lives. That's simple, isn't it? And yet a thing like that's in jeopardy from a few despots. Who suck the joy out of the rooms.
Rome is Burning!
Why, when this fire dies down, what's going to be left? More misery, more frustration and more hate. And what's to prevent that from starting all over again? Nobody knows the answer to that one, and certainly not them, with those slimy, bollixed-up theories they've got!
"Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering."
The oppressors fear the voices of the now silent, the strong willed who remain on the sidelines. That's their weakness. When bullies are confronted by the masses they fold like paper tigers.
Do not fear these invidious hate mongers who should judge not lest they be judged.
Those of you who sit idly by, while members are unjustly berated, out of jealousy or spite are just a guilty of bullying, as the bullies themselves. Maybe even more so.
Without followers, evil cannot spread.
Rise above the stupidy around you. Do not sit back and simply do nothing. Stand up for yourself and others. But don't become them.
"He who fights with monsters should look to it that he himself does not become a monster. And when you gaze long into an abyss the abyss also gazes into you."
tis nobler in the mind to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, Or to take arms against a sea of troubles, And by opposing end them?
"ROME IS BURNING!"
Who will step forward to put out the fires & say "ENOUGH"?
That's tonight's WORD.
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Fuck You
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Posted:Jan 24, 2011 10:12 am
Last Updated:Feb 14, 2011 4:54 pm
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I see you driving 'round town. With the girl I love and I'm like, Fuck you!
I guess the change in my pocket. Wasn't enough I'm like, Fuck you! And fuck her too!
I said, if I was richer, I'd still be with ya. Ha, now ain't that some shit? And although there's pain in my chest. I still wish you the best with a...Fuck you!
Yeah I'm sorry, I can't afford a ferrari, But that don't mean I can't get you there. I guess he's an xbox and I'm more atari, But the way you play your game ain't fair.
I pitty the fool that falls in love with you. I've got some news for you. Yeah go run and tell your little boyfriend.
I see you driving 'round town. With the girl I love and I'm like, Fuck you! I guess the change in my pocket. Wasn't enough I'm like, Fuck you! And fuck her too!
I said, if I was richer, I'd still be with ya. Ha, now ain't that some shit? And although there's pain in my chest. I still wish you the best with a...Fuck you!
Now I know, that I had to borrow, Beg and steal and lie and cheat.
Trying to keep ya, trying to please ya. 'Cause being in love with you ass ain't cheap.
I pitty the fool that falls in love with you. oohhhh I've got some news for you. I really hate yo ass right now.
I see you driving 'round town. With the girl I love and I'm like, Fuck you! I guess the change in my pocket. Wasn't enough I'm like, Fuck you! And fuck her too!
I said, if I was richer, I'd still be with ya. Ha, now ain't that some shit? And although there's pain in my chest. I still wish you the best with a...Fuck you!
Now baby, baby, baby, why d'you wanna wanna hurt me so bad?
I tried to tell my mamma but she told me "this is one for your dad yes shee did...
Whhhy? Whhhy? Whhhy lady? Oh! I love you oh! I still love you.
I see you driving 'round town. With the girl I love and I'm like, Fuck you!
I guess the change in my pocket. Wasn't enough I'm like, Fuck you! And fuck her too!
I said, if I was richer, I'd still be with ya. Ha, now ain't that some shit? And although there's pain in my chest. I still wish you the best with a...Fuck you!
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5 Signs He Thinks You're The One partner
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Posted:Jan 19, 2011 6:57 am
Last Updated:Feb 9, 2011 10:51 pm
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By Gabrielle Frank
Forget asking your boyfriend how he feels about your future together — that conversation just freaks guys out! Instead, learn to read the signals. If you've noticed any of these telling behaviors, it's official — the guy thinks you're wifey material.
1. He wants to spend the holidays with you — wherever that takes him.
If he's willing to forgo his childhood traditions and chill at your parents' place — or skip family time altogether and take a trip with you — that means he's been thinking about creating new traditions and memories with you.
2. He invites you to his best friend's wedding — without being pushed.
Watching a close buddy walk down the aisle is a momentous occasion. And he wouldn't want to share that with just any girl, especially since there are bound to be plenty of "So, are you two next?" comments. If your man invited you (and he seems psyched to have you there), chances are he foresees the possibility of you two walking down the aisle in the future.
3. He drops the phrase "our ".
Not to man-bash, but most guys have a hard time even thinking about starting a family until they meet the right girl. Saying something as seemingly minor as, "We wouldn't let our be that rude" means he's not only imagining it, he's expecting it to happen. And the thought doesn't send him running off to his man cave.
4. He's cried in front of you.
Whether he’s shed tears while watching The Notebook or because his died, he feels like he can be vulnerable around you. Taking off his macho nothing-can-hurt-me armor shows that he’s not afraid of being himself. If he doesn't try to hide it or act embarrassed, that could mean he’s envisioning going through a lot of ups and downs with you by his side. And he wants to be sure you’re cool with seeing his not-so-manly moments.
5. He's suddenly very responsible about finances.
Men tend to feel like they should be in a good place, money-wise before settling down with a woman. (Sure, it sounds old school, but it's true.) So if he seems more concerned with getting that promotion, contributing to his savings account, and opening a 401k, that's a sign he wants to be able to support someone in the near future (ahem, you).
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I'm gonna talk about us, the average guys, the John Does.
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Posted:Dec 24, 2010 5:02 pm
Last Updated:May 26, 2024 7:10 pm
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If anybody should ask you what the average John Doe is like, you couldn't tell him because he's a million and one things. He's Mr. Big and Mr. Small. He's simple and he's wise. He's inherently honest, but he's got a streak of larceny in his heart. He seldom walks up to a public telephone without shoving his finger into the slot to see if somebody left a nickel there.
He's the man the ads are written for.
Yes, sir. Yessir, we're a great family, the John Does. We're the meek who are, er, supposed to inherit the earth. You'll find us everywhere. We raise the crops, we dig the mines, work the factories, keep the books, fly the planes and drive the busses! And when a cop yells: "Stand back there, you!" He means us, the John Does!
We've existed since time began. We built the pyramids, we saw Christ crucified, pulled the oars for Roman emperors, sailed the boats for Columbus, retreated from Moscow with Napoleon and froze with Washington at Valley Forge!
Yes, sir. We've been in there dodging left hooks since before history began to walk! In our struggle for freedom we've hit the canvas many a time, but we always bounced back!
Because we're the people —and we're tough!
They've started a lot of talk about free people going soft—that we can't take it. That's a lot of hooey! . . . A free people can beat the world at anything, from war to tiddle-de-winks, if we all pull in the same direction!
I know a lot of you are saying "What can I do? I'm just a little punk. I don't count." Well, you're dead wrong! The little punks have always counted because in the long run the character of a country is the sum total of the character of its little punks.
But we've all got to get in there and pitch! We can't win the old ball game unless we have team work. And that's where every John Doe comes in! It's up to him to get together with his teammate!
And your teammates, my friends, is the guy next door to you. Your neighbor! He's a terribly important guy, that guy next door! You're gonna need him and he's gonna need you . . . so look him up! If he's sick, call on him! If he's hungry, feed him! If he's out of a job, find him one! To most of you, your neighbor is a stranger, a guy with a barking dog, and a high fence around him.
Now, you can't be a stranger to any guy that's on your own team. So tear down the fence that separates you, tear down the fence and you'll tear down a lot of hates and prejudices! Tear down all the fences in the country and you'll really have teamwork!
I know a lot of you are saying to yourselves: "He's asking for a miracle to happen. He's expecting people to change all of a sudden." Well, you're wrong. It's no miracle. It's no miracle because I see it happen once every year. And so do you. At Christmas time! There's something swell about the spirit of Christmas, to see what it does to people, all kinds of people . . .
Now, why can't that spirit, that same warm Christmas spirit last the whole year round? Gosh, if it ever did, if each and every John Doe would make that spirit last three hundred and sixty-five days out of the year, we'd develop such a strength, we'd create such a tidal wave of good will, that no human force could stand against it.
Yes, sir, my friends, the meek can only inherit the earth when the John Does start loving their neighbors. You'd better start right now. Don't wait till the game is called on account of darkness! Wake up, John Doe! You're the hope of the world!
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The heelots!
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Posted:Dec 24, 2010 4:55 pm
Last Updated:May 26, 2024 7:10 pm
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I don't read no papers and I don't listen to radios either. I know the world's been shaved by a drunken barber and I don't have to read it.
I've seen guys like you go under before. Guys that never had a worry. Then they got ahold of some dough and went goofy. The first thing that happens to a guy—
The first thing that happens to a guy like that—he starts wantin' to go into restaurants and sit at a table and eat salads—and cup cakes—and tea— Boy, what that kinda food does to your system!
The next thing the dope wants is a room. Yes sir, a room with steam heat! And curtains and rugs and 'fore you know it, he's all softened up and he can't sleep 'less he has a bed.
I seen plenty of fellers start out with fifty bucks and wind up with a bank account!
And let me tell you, When you become a guy with a bank account, they got you. Yes sir, they got you!
The heelots!
And when they get you, you got no more chance than a road-rabbit.
The heelots!
Listen, sucker, yuh ever been broke?
All right. You're walking along—not a nickel in your jeans—free as the wind—nobody bothers you—hundreds of people pass yuh by in every line of business—shoes, hats, automobiles, radio, furniture, everything. They're all nice, lovable people, and they let you alone. Is that right?
Then you get hold of some dough, and what happens?
All those nice, sweet, lovable people become heelots. A lotta heels. They begin creeping up on you—trying to sell you something. They've got long claws and they get a strangle- hold on you—and you squirm—and duck and holler—and you try to push 'em away—but you haven't got a chance—they've got you! First thing you know, you own things. A car, for instance.
Now your whole life is messed up with more stuff—license fees—and number plates—and gas and oil—and taxes and insurance—
and identification cards—and letters—and bills—and flat tires—and dents—and traffic tickets and motorcycle cops and court rooms—and lawyers—and fines—
And a million and one other things. And what happens? You're not the free and happy guy you used to be. You gotta have money to pay for all those things—so you go after what the other feller's got— And there you are—you're a heelot yourself!
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