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Blogs > onelittlesecret > A Romantic's Funhouse

Standards, dating, and appreciation  

onelittlesecret 41M
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2/20/2008 8:38 pm

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2/25/2008 7:04 pm
Standards, dating, and appreciation

There have been a lot of really good posts around lately about us guys basically analyzing women’s behavior. Whether you agree with the conclusions or not, it is some excellent reading regarding the male psyche. There is often a lot of frustration over the standards us guys feel we have to live up to.

I have another post to link to, [post 1282710]

I guess a lot of this talk about girls has got me thinking about what brought me here, and why I’m still here. Yes, what brought me to this, and any other dating site, is to find someone. For various reasons, out in the real world, I rarely encounter situations where I’m comfortable pursuing a girl.

The internet, being what it is, provides this great opportunity to approach people in a much more comfortable, controlled kind of way, right from the safety of your own place. Then you have these dating sites, which provide a gathering place for other people in the same situation as you.

Fill out some forms, search out your match, and presto! You’ve successfully circumvented the awkward initial pick-up line. No false pretenses. You actually get to be open about what you’re looking and hoping for.

Of course this does not come to be. Instead there is a vast nothingness. Why?

Why is a legitimate question, but a hard one to figure out. Regardless of the answer though, there is one very obvious conclusion; I will be no more successful with dating sites than I would be going out somewhere. Whether that has more to do with who I am, or the male-to-female ratio, or whatever else, doesn’t really matter.

The reason why I’m still here, and the reason why I participate with this site, is because of the blogs. Though the internet is clearly an inefficient way of bringing most people together romantically, it’s an excellent way of bringing people together with similar interests. This is what I’ve found here (I guess the similar interest being constant horniness?).

In real life, my romantic success has come from similar situations. Just people with common interests hanging around each other, then something happens. Also known as ‘friends first syndrome.’

I think this is the secret to success online. If you want to meet someone, but are not the kind of person who would attract people out in real life, you won’t on some dating site either. Unless you want to undergo some personal transformation (which you may not think is for the better), your success does not lie in the dating sites, but in the blogs and the chat rooms across the internet. Where people get together for other reasons, like sex addiction.

You never know who it will happen with, or when, or even if, but it’s really the only viable possibility? It certainly feels a lot better than the repeated banging your head against a brick wall that is modern courtship. And if nothing romantic develops, you still end up with human connection, and affection. There actually is a lot of love here, even if it’s not the kind we were hoping to find.

That may not be something you’d settle for, but at least it’s something to help us cope along the way.

cambaby69 54F

2/20/2008 9:03 pm

 I came back on this site with a new attitude to have fun blogging and chatting.I am not looking for anything but it it happens then it happens.I am more then willing to embrace itI am making alot of freinds on here and that has been my set goal.I swore I was not going into anything wearing my heart on my sleeve.

With that being said I have seen alot of relationships on here end up in marriage.I know a few of these couples and have been to one wedding.One couple have been together since this site started up and the other couple have been married ow for five years.When I feel like nothing can happen good on this site I think of them and know there is hope.


onelittlesecret replies on 2/20/2008 9:59 pm:
I know of one couple that met on the blogs that got married too.

I try to be at the place where I'm not desperately looking, although sometimes I feel myself sliding that way, haha. Although I'm different in terms of wearing my heart on my sleeve. I do tend to do that, a lot actually, and I guess I'm still at a point where I feel it's important for me to, even if it were to make me less attractive (I've found it even makes me more attractive to some).

geauxgeaux4you 58M/54F

2/20/2008 9:31 pm

 Okay...my good friend DoctorBooty has had lots of success on this site...without cock pics...or jack-off cams...His post Tips for Guys to meet women is a must read. It's a very long list...but a good read with exceptional ideas and tips from someone who has in fact had numerous successes. He is currently in a serious relationship with someone he met on Hookup.Date Naughty Affair Dating. If you will read his blogs, you will see the stories of his sexcapades and relationships with other current Hookup.Date Naughty Affair Dating members. Has it always been easy for him...NO! Has he been lied to and hurt...YES! But, he is at least getting the opportunities for real skin to skin meets and more. Hope this helps.


... Jenni {=}{=}{=}{=}{=}{=}{=}{=}



Thanks for visiting me at: GeauxGeaux4You


onelittlesecret replies on 2/20/2008 10:07 pm:
I'm somewhat familiar with DoctorBooty, and have even read that post. If I recall correctly, I believe it was linked to in a lady's profile I read.

To be totally honest, I'm a bit skeptical. I didn't go through his blog very much, but my interpretation was he was an alpha-male type. In my experience with such friends, they give good advice, but it usually comes down to compromising who I am.

I believe I have actually gone through the blogs belonging to two of his lovers, but I will have a more thorough read through of his now that you've recommended him.

Hard to be open-minded when I'm already quite jealous, for obvious reasons.

onelittlesecret replies on 2/22/2008 2:37 am:
*panting*

Went through his blog, pretty good read. Still a little skeptical though, that one would have such success without his physical attributes. In fairness though, I've never really consistently tried pursuing dates here like he has (hard to really do unless you pay.)

sweetgirlschool 50F

2/20/2008 11:04 pm

 Well, I must say that the blogs on this site are
great. They seem more open and uninhibited than
other blogs.


onelittlesecret replies on 2/20/2008 11:12 pm:
I know, the blogs are so great.

Back when I joined, after about a week I was done with the site. Sitting there with nothing else to do, I poked around and stumbled upon the Huntress' blog. It was a certain post that just hit me. I began reading her, and then a couple others, and started to write a little poetry myself over the next week in my comments.

Then I decided to start up my own blog, and yadda, yadda, here I am.
Actually I wonder how my life would be different now if things hadn't happened that way... it's definitely affected my life, hahaha.

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