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Sensitive manhood.  

ATownSwingers 41M/38F
3 posts
3/11/2016 12:46 pm
Sensitive manhood.

I’ve got a serious question / conversation for the men on a frequent issue that I see coming up. Ladies can chime in on this at any time. Why is it that men are so overly sensitive about being naked around other men or seeing other men naked? Don’t get me wrong, no man wants to be in a group with a wall dedicated to dick or at a party with the same tone. Even while engaging in a MMF threesome, it often comes up that the lights have to be off because “I don’t want to see that”. Another thing said is “She has to find two other dudes because it’s too close for comfort for me”. As a King you’d rather send your queen out to find her own satisfaction rather that participate in what would get her there. Isn’t it a double standard to set things up in such a way that exposes women in all aspects and men only in privacy? I’m in no way homosexual and at the same time I’m not homophobic. I understand that pictures and videos of a man that are on the wall are for the enjoyment purposes of the women, but men are usually offended by the visual aspect as well as conversational content. Even current and former military personnel, athletes and the like struggle with the issue. My wife, for example, enjoys the varying shapes and sizes of a man’s’ body as much as she does a woman but it seems men are still very uncomfortable with themselves. I’m not going to complement you on your balls or anything like that but I know what she’s interested in and I’m man enough to step up and have that conversation with a man when it’s something she wants at the time. Endless bashing sessions go on in some groups on the post that people say they don’t want to see. Different vibes in different places. I know it’s a long read and I’m starting to think it would’ve been better as a video submission. It seems to me that most are scared to have this discussion and I’m calling everyone out to speak on it. Since it’s an avoided topic, I’d like to actually find folks who are willing to get real about it. Annnnnnd GO!

firedup_19 62M
1684 posts
3/11/2016 12:56 pm

 You can compliment me on my balls, I'm ok with that, and they are quite nice....Lol


kauldronT0017 43M
178 posts
3/13/2016 12:11 am

 It's a fair question. I think that the answer is simple to grasp but takes many words to articulate. Imagine an average guy walks into a bar to meet a woman that he is interested in. Perhaps they met here or on tinder. Then another guy that is tall buff, handsome and well dressed begins talking to the woman as he enters. He knows that she has no real reason to be particularly loyal to him as they have never really met in person. How does he react? Does he walk away? Does he approach her and introduce himself so that she knows he is present? Does he wait for the other man to finish talking to see if she will tell him that she is waiting on someone? The reality is that all of these things could happen. The man that leaves does so because he is intimidated or perhaps because he second guesses his own resolve. The man that interrupts might do so because he feels that he needs to establish his territory or maybe something less primal like a feeling of priority since she was originally there for him. The one who waits might simply be looking for an excuse to walk away. In either case the source is the same. All of these reactions are an acknowledgement of another man's physical traits. realizing that the man is a threat to their goal because the man is attractive. As a straight man I understand this. I can see beyond the veil. It is no different than choosing to have a friend you perceive as less attractive than yourself as a wing man. If this same scenario occurred with a less attractive assuming male speaking to the woman there would be zero conflict. His confidence would give him the strength to approach casually on his own terms. This is an acknowledgment that straight men can see the attractive qualities of other men. Knowing this makes many men feel uncomfortable. It is emasculating to publicly acknowledge this in some social circles. So in order to protect their masculinity they feel they must ensure that they are not viewed as such. I think that once a man is able to understand this and become comfortable with it he doesn't care anymore. he realizes that the true goal is the joy of his partner. He can please her and fulfill her desires even if they might require a little teamwork. It is hard thing to set on's own pride aside for the sake of their partner.


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