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Blogs > 6942goodtimes > love sex and middle ground

Just a few questions for you  

6942goodtimes 39M
9 posts
11/20/2015 6:36 am
Just a few questions for you

I'm just interested to see what other people views and opions are!

1) who else is here looking for an affair?

2) have you cheated or been cheated on?

3) do you think this makes me a bad person?

4) and have you been with someone whom is attached?

Please feel free to answer and ask anything you'd like.
Thank to anyone who reads or comments on this!

rdy2try4 59F  
3330 posts
11/20/2015 6:51 am

 How would you feel if you found out your wife was having sex with someone else? Would you seriously enjoy it or would you feel as if you failed somehow, betrayed? I haven't been cheated on but a terrific male friend of mine was and it totally destroyed him. Ask your wife if she thinks people are meant to be monogamous and see her answer. I will not be the favorite to those that are looking outside their marriages, but I think you are a coward to look for someone new behind her back and them make a transition to another person and leave her in the dark till the last moment when you leave so that you won't have to be alone and she will be in the end. She will feel betrayed and start hating men for what they do. Not all men or women cheat, it is a choice you make. I know far too many people that do not cheat and don't even feel compelled to. As the person in your other blog post said, you may regret being here as you could end up losing everything you have when she files for a divorce after you have been caught.


6942goodtimes 39M
10 posts
11/20/2015 7:16 am

 Thanks for your opinion. There's a lot more to the situation then I'm letting on. I'm just curious to see what people think of certain things without knowing the whole story. But once again your opinion is very important.


positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
11/20/2015 7:38 am

 No man is more sexy and attractive than a man who is totally dedicated to his wife and children. Take what you want from that.


6942goodtimes replies on 11/20/2015 9:28 am:
First thanks for the comment.
Second I'd like to make it clear that I have been faithful and am just flirting with the idea.
And I think if you were to ask most married men that are dedicated if they feel the way you described. The answer would be NO.

LiveLifeDoU 69F  
2199 posts
11/20/2015 11:58 am

 I agree with xck...if I can believe profiles and how ppl are in the chat rooms, there are some married men in difficult positions...some are dedicated to their wives and family but there is no sex...some have been completely separated from their wives for years...I have not delved into their personal lives to find out why they are still married...that's their business, not mine.

As xck said...no matter what you choose, make sure everyone can live with what consequences come up.
Good luck, take care.


6942goodtimes replies on 11/20/2015 12:46 pm:
Thanks for the reply and advice!

rdy2try4 59F  
3330 posts
11/20/2015 6:02 pm
    Quoting 6942goodtimes:
    Thanks for your opinion. There's a lot more to the situation then I'm letting on. I'm just curious to see what people think of certain things without knowing the whole story. But once again your opinion is very important.
First off, regardless of the entire situation, YOUR WIFE won't care what the situation is or was if she catches you. That is the bottom line. Divorce comes 99.9999% of the time when one partner is caught cheating and no one says "Well, I know we don't have money for a divorce so you can go out and cheat" nor do they say "I know we have kids, but you can go out and cheat." You may come to an agreement of a separation if you discuss that you want more sex and will look for it outside the marriage. You also may be met with the divorce idea right there. I Just know one thing positively, no situation will override her betrayal once you are caught and you will end up where you don't want to be and now called names.

If you have been to 2 counselors and the end is not fixed then maybe, regardless of how much everything else works, you may not just want the divorce, but need it. Cheating on someone will not end the way you want. I have never met a person yet that said "Wow you cheated on me. Do it again." You need to seriously think of the damage that could be done to not just her but you as well if you are caught.

Lastly, I am thinking you have never sat down and said directly "I want to have sex with other people because you won't have sex with me" in any way, shape, or form. If you know saying that would tear everything apart then again, think of what getting caught would do.


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