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9/19/2019 12:11 pm |
My girl has always had a kinky side, yet she always held those desires within..till she met me. For her she needed a strong bond of trust, respect and knowing her needs wouldn’t be judged. now, six years later, we have explored, enjoyed and shared our deepest secrets..We Have a few to enjoy yet, but that depends on right place and time..We call it, sexual freedom, think it, explore it..not many can actually say they’ve experienced it..we can
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I myself aren't into the really kinky stuff, although blindfolds, silk scarves or handcuffs can be a lot of fun as it heightens all your senses. And in saying that you have to have a very trusting partner to be able to enjoy such kink. I hope you experiment with some things that have your interest my friend, as we only live once right.. I hope you have a terrific Thursday.. Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
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I don't know how far you mean by kinky. My description might not be another's. Yep... I'd say a strong foundation is required... especially as it gets kinkier and kinkier.. Right? 😗 Ya have to be able to trust each other. ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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I believe ANY exploration be it KINK VANILLA or travel to foreign lands should be undertaken with a VERY solid trust relationship. New can be very scary... but if you trust the other person it can keep things centered and on track
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Oh I am so vanilla, I used to think kinky was me on top  . And then.......I came here. Eye opener.
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To riff on Humpty Dumpty, "Kink is what you want it to be." My definition echoes the Urban Dictionary: "an unusual taste in sexual behavior". To that effect, kink is not necessarily BDSM edge play, for which not only trust...but SKILLS are required. I have spent enjoyable and informative time with a couple of female Dommes who were generous enough to share their perspectives with me- a near-vanilla romantic. Like any community, Kinksters come in all shapes, sizes and personalities. The *good* (per the Dommes, not me) communities follow strict codes of conduct, designed to ensure that everyone is both satisfied and safe. The *bad* are....well....bad and engaged at your peril. My own kink explorations have been lightweight, but erotically charged. I would commend you to consider some walking on the wild side.
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I think if you’re going to explore the deeper stuff...like humiliation, or some activity that could be a trigger for unleashing past trauma...yes, you need to have a good relationship in place. For the kind of stuff I do at parties...spanking, flogging, sensation play...it’s enough for me to like and respect the person and to know that our play styles are compatible. And that the other person will respect limits, if I’m the one on the receiving end.   
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Kink has a broad definition ....... regardless, trust is the foundation for a healthy vanilla or kink relationship.
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A person doesn't need a healthy sex life to broaden their knowledge about sex. Just a willingness to "Try" something different. I mean once or twice with dog-style and missionary, you're ready to move on to some other position or something. Strong foundation, and as some others have mentioned, "Trust" before having sex? This is a stall, an illusion. You could be with a person for a decade and in an instant all that foundation [time stalling] can be taken away. People who want a "Strong foundation", I feel are people who are only saying they need more time time to become more familiar with the other before having sex. Is this really building trust? No. They're just shy. Likewise, you could walk into a Spa or massage parlor, take off your clothing, and lie down on the massage table, and trust that total stranger instantly. So really, you don't actually need trust, you just have to pretend [believe] you can trust. As I mentioned about the spa/parlor... what made you feel safe enough to be naked for that person? Mostly just a feeling you get from that person. And that's what we do with everyone we meet. We get a feeling, and we go forward, or back away. In my twenties and thirties I went through exploring a lot of variations of sex with the women I was seeing/dating/ [in one case, a woman who lived a few doors away]. I concluded the kinky stuff is pretty stupid stuff. The bondage and discipline was ridiculous. Nothing exciting about that. I think people who get excited from that have mental issues. The Dominant and Submissive role play is also nonsense, at least for me. It just felt phony, pretend, unnecessary. LIke playing war, bang, you're dead. phttt. I think why the dom and sub works for some people is because the woman is not picking up on a masculine polarity from the male. It's missing. He doesn't have it. So she pretends he is in charge. Women who go about pretending she's some sort of dominatrix probably she mostly only socializes sexually with men lacking the masculine polarity men should have. The natural sex play , without all the crops, ball gags , leather , latex, collars, nipple clamps.. etc..., LOL... without all that junk, sex should be awesome enough. You're a shy woman, so sex and trying different stuff will take awhile, but don't fool yourself into thinking the foundation is getting stronger, or you are building trust.
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You make a good added point about my stuff happening at parties. Having other people around adds an element of safety, in that a "bad actor" would get stopped pretty quickly.
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Well said my lady , indeed ! Depending on the chemistry of course, but with lots of hard earned trust, the spark of the moment could take a cpl on interesting pathways Cheers - P
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I'm an adventurer - the main reason I'm here. That being said, I don't require a deep, deep relationship with my co-adventurers. But YES if you're going to get into things that involve bondage and such, it HAS to be with someone you completely trust!! He39s Checking Me Out What Wants to See My Pes, on OPQ HNW Leg Wear Options [post 3312759] My Private Blog - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets
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Kinky? For me? It's a little personal... but... ok... It's not always the same. It changes... Perhaps some form of role play. Many different wild or unique sexual positions. Add some sex toys and perhaps being tied up and blindfolded. Edged and denied... dominanted... and being submissive... And then, you change places and roles with your lover... and manipulate THEIR levels of excitement... to the rythmes of YOUR touch, or breath or fingers. Watching them writhe, in uncontrolable, blissful pleasure, is equally thrilling. What a rush, to watch the expression on her face, as you caress her... then stop. Kinky... is anything, that can add extra sexual extacy or heightened sexual gratification to the orgasmic experience for me and my lover. Eventually... they're things that make your whole body shiver and tingle with sexual tension and anticipation. They are things that culminate in mind blowing, body numbing, explosive orgasms. At the end of it all... you're spent. Your whole body is on fire and twitching... and wet and trembling and you can barely catch your breath. And parts of you, are throbbing. Butterflies in your stomach, tickle your insides. And you can hardly wait, for the next momentum to ignite and have that whole cycle... begin again. I'm curious about BDSM but haven't really pursued anything. Smartass is an expert there. Does that answer your question? 🙄 I've kinda exposed myself here. I'm glad we're alone. ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Ha.. Yes, we're sure not wired that same. At the very instant I read your reply, the News began reporting a SUV driving through a Mall in Chicago. .. So, yes, some peoples wiring is all fucked up. Back to the topic....Men are indeed wired differently than women regarding sex. Men are, and, have been, more aggressive about getting sex. This is normal, for our species. I'm familiar with the , "Different strokes for different folks" , I first heard about that in 1969. Though really, about as normal as you can possibly be about sex is the goal of "Reproduction". I think we can all agree the original [normal] intent of sex is to reproduce. ...So , really, even if it sounds silly, you, I , anyone could say, "Sex is abnormal when the intention is not to reproduce". .. On that note: Abnormal sex is fun, and very much the reason sex sites exists. So reasonably, any version of sex that isn't oriented toward reproduction is not normal. But fuck it... people do the abnormal version of sex for pleasure. Not always necessarily to increase the population of our species. Although accidents happen. So the actual question we seem to aiming at, is , "What variety of pleasure sex is normal, and what isn't". Now you can throw in that , "Different strokes for different folks", card. Funny though, people say, "Different strokes for different folks", like they are opened minded, LOL... until someone mentions having sex in a pile of scat or having sex with animals..... lol.... open-minds shut down instantly LOL.
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I am not of any particular religious indoctrination, so "Sin" doesn't really exist, nor mean anything to me. The concept of good and evil is man-made based on what makes us feel comfortable and uncomfortable, and to keep people in line. I was curious what "Sin" might be listed as , today, and found: Pride, Acedia, Envy, Wrath, Sloth, Greed. Looks like a lot has been recently added to the 7 deadly sins.... Listed under each sin , is an entire host of pleasurable things that if people actually live in fear of an idea of a god, they shouldn't be doing.... Such as, [Pride] Domination, Bondage, Sadism, Femdom. [Sloth]watching sports shows, noneducational movies, talk shows...[Lust] Homos, Watching Porn, Hiring prostitutes..[Greed] Capitalism,Prostituting, Pornography. Did you see that? ... NO MORE MOVIES that are not educational!! What the fuck!? Almost seems as thought the Socialist and Communist, or Democratic party and AOC published the bible. Pleasure is just an aspect of Being in this physical world. All kinds of animals experience pleasure. Probably plants, too, since proven that plants react to positive and negative verbal input.
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I'm more curious than kinky
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