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Blogs > Paulxx001 > Paul'S PlacE ❗ ⭕❗⭕ ❗⭕

Two Things You Can Do... To Make Her Hum... 🔥❤️
 

Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/3/2020 5:46 pm
    Quoting secret_lade:
    When I have a hard time accepting my own imperfections.... How can I believe anyone else would either?
Maybe... you're being too harsh on yourself. Isn't there a statute of limitations on self recrimination?
Ever thought of letting it go? 🤔 🍷🍷😎


mc_justmc 63M

3/3/2020 8:17 pm

 Interesting comparison. I never had a problem with her imperfections, but let me serve ice to another woman or freeze another woman's rump roast and I'm left out on the curb! Sheesh!


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/3/2020 9:37 pm
    Quoting mc_justmc:
    Interesting comparison. I never had a problem with her imperfections, but let me serve ice to another woman or freeze another woman's rump roast and I'm left out on the curb! Sheesh!
So... She was the jealous type.
Should I even ask what that - 'freezing a rump roast' - thingy is all about? 🤔
Yep... I hear you. 😶


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
3/3/2020 11:08 pm

 Before you can accept someone else's 'imperfections', you have to acknowledge your own.
Love this quote from Marilyn Monroe: 'Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.'

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Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/4/2020 4:54 am
    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    Before you can accept someone else's 'imperfections', you have to acknowledge your own.
    Love this quote from Marilyn Monroe: 'Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.'

    [image]
That is true... all around.❗🍷🍷😊
I wonder if I'll remember these words... when they should count. How do you fair when using them? 🤔
Marilyn was a classic, wasn't she! 👍


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/4/2020 5:02 am
    Quoting  :
It would take a 'Poco', right? 😮 lol 😂
I think I might be a touch guilty of looking for perfection, when in fact I should be accepting people more - for who they are.
How do you do in those situations? 🤔
I have a feeling... you're a straight shooter with everyone you meet. 🍷🍷❗😎


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/4/2020 8:46 am
    Quoting  :
It's all good! 😊 👍
It's been years and... I mean... regardless of how frosty my ex got - she was never able to freeze an ice cube tray. 🍷🍷😎


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/4/2020 8:50 am
    Quoting  :
I measure other people's imperfections against mine and damn... I'm always coming up on top. 😮
My tolerance? 🤔 It's right up there.
Except... no vegans. Ya gotta draw the line SOMEWHERE! 👍 🍷🍷😎❗


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
3/4/2020 11:06 am

 Amazingly, I agree with Heathen. I think a lot of what people think is "love" is sexual infatuation.

I heard an interesting thread on Dan Savage's podcast where his guest speaker said that studies have shown that women are the gender most likely to become sexually bored, and that it usually happens after 2-4 years. No it's not a loss of libido, they're bored with their partner.

The following week, one of his callers said that her solution was not to live with her partner. By eliminating having to deal with the daily annoyances of someone else's "quirks", she manages to keep the flame alive. I suspect that would probably be a good solution for me (especially since I have my own flaws that would drive someone else crazy).

Or, the couple can be grown-ups, try to talk through the things that annoy each other and arrive at compromises/solutions. Ugh that's so hard though!


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/4/2020 1:48 pm
    Quoting smartasswoman:
    Amazingly, I agree with Heathen. I think a lot of what people think is "love" is sexual infatuation.

    I heard an interesting thread on Dan Savage's podcast where his guest speaker said that studies have shown that women are the gender most likely to become sexually bored, and that it usually happens after 2-4 years. No it's not a loss of libido, they're bored with their partner.

    The following week, one of his callers said that her solution was not to live with her partner. By eliminating having to deal with the daily annoyances of someone else's "quirks", she manages to keep the flame alive. I suspect that would probably be a good solution for me (especially since I have my own flaws that would drive someone else crazy).

    Or, the couple can be grown-ups, try to talk through the things that annoy each other and arrive at compromises/solutions. Ugh that's so hard though!
Why are you amazed with the Heathen? 🤔 lol 😂 😮 👍
I think much of THIS group of commenters (given their age), is so entrenched in their habits and foibles and idiosyncrasies, that love - is probably just an unattainable illusion.
I can live with someone's habits (however weird they are), but the fundamentals for curiosity and exploration and frivolity - have to be there. You're not finding that out till - 2 to 4 years down the road. Not surprising. hmmm... 🤔
Yeah... but isn't some of the fun, in other rooms besides the bedroom? You know what I mean.
So... points to Heathen. 👍
I know that the mind is a powerful organ and if it looks hard enough for something (in someone else), it'll find it. Can we be happy with that?
Some are...
So WHAT (habits) exactly, would drive me crazy 🤪? 🍷🍷😎❗
i can think of a few... 🌹


tsn4fun2 48M/46F  
257 posts
3/4/2020 6:16 pm
    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Wise words. Are you a therapist? lol 😂
    True, about communication. Well... you're a couple... I heard the words 'true love'... is that your ace?
    Gotta love a dent... that takes 50% off, something brand new.
    Hey... drop by any time. 👍
No I’m not a therapist but I’ve been married to the same man for a quarter of a century + now. We all have our ups and downs but IF you really want to keep the love of your life by your side then you just HAVE to accept the imperfections as they come on BOTH sides. Nobody is perfect and anyone who claims to be is just missing out on life period. You have to accept YOUR own imperfections and roll with it in order to honestly accept anyone else’s. Don’t forget that. If you and your spouse, lover, friends are all on the same page then nothing is impossible. Love finds a way to forgive and move forward. (Note I don’t say forget cuz what lessons would you have Learned if you did) You have to be positive and happy with yourself to achieve any of this. You have to be positive and happy to support whoever needs that support to get through any scratch and dents that arise. It’s all what you WANT to make of it. Having a true easy going attitude and acceptance of knowing that life throws you lemons helps a whole lot. Just think of ways to make lemonade from it all and throw the empty rines away. Trash days Wednesday and Saturday for us. lots of luck. Hope next round goes much smoother


smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
3/4/2020 7:11 pm

 I agree with you that people in our age group tend to be a bit set in our ways and our quirks are ingrained! I've been living by myself for fifteen years, it's probably hopeless.

What are my quirks? Maybe a topic for a blog post...


Paulxx001 replies on 3/4/2020 9:26 pm:
i mean... how else can you explain my remarks to your virus concerns.
6 hours? 🤔 without air... will affect your judgement.
But yeah.
I'd say... stay home and play games here. or... go.
Just be vigilant.

Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/4/2020 9:19 pm
    Quoting smartasswoman:
    I agree with you that people in our age group tend to be a bit set in our ways and our quirks are ingrained! I've been living by myself for fifteen years, it's probably hopeless.

    What are my quirks? Maybe a topic for a blog post...
i can live with quirks.
but people can change.
I used to be exclusive... on the left side of the bed. Now? I'm ambi-bedtrix. Either side. 😁
Baby steps. Do you laugh a lot? That's a game changer for me. I won't mind if you fart, but if you don't laugh at my quips? 🤔 OMG...
Yep... when's that topic coming?
Oh and.. I like that mitten.
I think it's about laughter. Really... ❗😎🍷🍷💕


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/4/2020 9:33 pm
    Quoting tsn4fun2:
    No I’m not a therapist but I’ve been married to the same man for a quarter of a century + now. We all have our ups and downs but IF you really want to keep the love of your life by your side then you just HAVE to accept the imperfections as they come on BOTH sides. Nobody is perfect and anyone who claims to be is just missing out on life period. You have to accept YOUR own imperfections and roll with it in order to honestly accept anyone else’s. Don’t forget that. If you and your spouse, lover, friends are all on the same page then nothing is impossible. Love finds a way to forgive and move forward. (Note I don’t say forget cuz what lessons would you have Learned if you did) You have to be positive and happy with yourself to achieve any of this. You have to be positive and happy to support whoever needs that support to get through any scratch and dents that arise. It’s all what you WANT to make of it. Having a true easy going attitude and acceptance of knowing that life throws you lemons helps a whole lot. Just think of ways to make lemonade from it all and throw the empty rines away. Trash days Wednesday and Saturday for us. lots of luck. Hope next round goes much smoother
I like your analogies. Good ones! 👍 😊
Myself? No regrets about the first round. Gave me two beautiful successful daughters who are managing and succeeding at their lives.
I'm at the stage where love - isn't an option. It's more of a luxury. A simple hug with a... ummm.
I'm a little more shallow than the idealists I see. And that's all good.
Yep... I liked your analysis. It's for those who still harbour patience. Hmmm... lol 😂
But I can still laugh. And THAT'S what's important to me. 😊 🍷🍷❗😎


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/5/2020 7:11 am
    Quoting  :
lol 😂 👍 I do... 🍷🍷❗😎


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/5/2020 8:43 am
    Quoting  :
... And who doesn't like to be compared to an old fridge. 👍Your nicks wouldn't bother me. 💕 Ya have knicks and dents? 🤔 🔥 💦
Those sculptures require some skill and talent to create... lol 😂
It's all starting to melt here... slowly... 😶😎🍷🍷🌹


tsn4fun2 48M/46F  
257 posts
3/5/2020 4:16 pm
    Quoting Paulxx001:
    I like your analogies. Good ones! 👍 😊
    Myself? No regrets about the first round. Gave me two beautiful successful daughters who are managing and succeeding at their lives.
    I'm at the stage where love - isn't an option. It's more of a luxury. A simple hug with a... ummm.
    I'm a little more shallow than the idealists I see. And that's all good.
    Yep... I liked your analysis. It's for those who still harbour patience. Hmmm... lol 😂
    But I can still laugh. And THAT'S what's important to me. 😊 🍷🍷❗😎
Touché my friend! Touché. Life is no fun without laughter


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/5/2020 5:42 pm
    Quoting tsn4fun2:
    Touché my friend! Touché. Life is no fun without laughter
Hey... Set up a 'mail box' on your blog.
You've got potential... lol 😂
Cheers 🥂 😎❗
Ever thought of sharing a thought?
I'd read it. 😶


tsn4fun2 48M/46F  
257 posts
3/5/2020 7:17 pm
    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Hey... Set up a 'mail box' on your blog.
    You've got potential... lol 😂
    Cheers 🥂 😎❗
    Ever thought of sharing a thought?
    I'd read it. 😶
Thanks for your kind words 😉 but I don’t have enough fresh ideas to start a blog. I’ll just keep to myself for now. I enjoyed your post enough to comment which I rarely do and enjoyed your interaction from it That’s gold in my book. I’ll continue to check in on ya! Make sure your refrigerator stays running 😋


Paulxx001 replies on 3/5/2020 7:52 pm:
No worries. It's all good.
Have fun. 🍷🍷❗

Livin_my_Life14 53F

3/5/2020 10:19 pm

 I fell in love with the imperfections- if only he loved mine in return. 😘


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/6/2020 3:50 am
    Quoting Livin_my_Life14:
    I fell in love with the imperfections- if only he loved mine in return. 😘
Yep... That's not good when that happens.
Good thing there are plenty of fish out there. 🐠. 🍷🍷😎❗👍


pollly_anna 60F  
697 posts
3/8/2020 9:30 pm

 Your sounding very nostalgic and melancholy in this post.


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/9/2020 5:36 am
    Quoting pollly_anna:
    Your sounding very nostalgic and melancholy in this post.
Perhaps... but not really. It's just a story about a dented and scratched fridge and how you can compare it to a relationship.
Most relationships aren't perfect. We all live with each other's little dings... don't we?
Or we won't ... and we walk away. 😶


pollly_anna 60F  
697 posts
3/9/2020 6:05 pm

 Well ok.


Paulxx001 replies on 3/9/2020 10:29 pm:
It's all good.

FrankeeZee 56M
7 posts
3/14/2020 10:53 pm

 I think I heard that same radio show. It was funny.


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