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5 Ways to Deal With Insults and Put-Downs… on Dating Sites... 😊❗❤️  

smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
8/11/2020 2:53 am

Hm, it's pretty rare that anyone tries to take me on here, especially now that I'm not trying to meet anyone anymore. It's been rare on "traditional" dating sites as well.

There have been a few cases of guys "negging"me to try to get my attention. I detest that strategy and will not engage.


anastasia666 46F
2231 posts
8/11/2020 4:00 am

Dear Paul,

Thank you for sharing this insightful blog post...A very good read indeed. I am so glad I found your blog.

I'd love to hear how our members here deal with this..As more folks " hide " behind their monitor to attack or create endless fake member profiles to abuse the site & members it is getting difficult to figure out what is the right or wrong way to handle abusive members..

Looking forward to hearing how Temptz " handles " this as opposed to the ideas you suggested.

Happy Tues,

Ana6

I done made the devil a deal
He made me pretty
He made me smart


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
8/11/2020 6:27 am

    Quoting PonyGirl1965:
    Drama queens are such a drag. I laugh at them
Good for you! 👍
That's a great strategy. I get the impression, no one messes with you.... here, or in the real world? 🤔


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
8/11/2020 6:29 am

    Quoting smartasswoman:
    Hm, it's pretty rare that anyone tries to take me on here, especially now that I'm not trying to meet anyone anymore. It's been rare on "traditional" dating sites as well.

    There have been a few cases of guys "negging"me to try to get my attention. I detest that strategy and will not engage.
Anyone who crushes nuts 🤪 as a hobby, is not someone I want to mess with. 🍷🍷😎


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
8/11/2020 6:56 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Smart choice and a wise reaction.
    I re-visited your post.
    Interesting perspective on the topic, but many people still listen and react to their haters.
    But that's in the realm of bullying and real abuse.
    In my example, I'm talking more about random insults, or is there a a difference? 🤔
I don't see the difference. Both scenarios are a form of bullying and abuse. It's not too often someone hurls a '"random insult". It's usually predicated on some previous interaction or communication. If it was totally random, it would be cause for more alarm.


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
8/11/2020 9:10 am

    Quoting anastasia666:
    Dear Paul,

    Thank you for sharing this insightful blog post...A very good read indeed. I am so glad I found your blog.

    I'd love to hear how our members here deal with this..As more folks " hide " behind their monitor to attack or create endless fake member profiles to abuse the site & members it is getting difficult to figure out what is the right or wrong way to handle abusive members..

    Looking forward to hearing how Temptz " handles " this as opposed to the ideas you suggested.

    Happy Tues,

    Ana6
Seems like everyone has their own way of dealing with stuff like that.
My preference? 🤔 To not even have to be a part of it. 😊❗


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
8/11/2020 9:15 am

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    I don't see the difference. Both scenarios are a form of bullying and abuse. It's not too often someone hurls a '"random insult". It's usually predicated on some previous interaction or communication. If it was totally random, it would be cause for more alarm.
Totally random is easy to ignore.
It's that premeditated (let's wait two years) one that gets under my skin.
But I understand what you mean.


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
8/11/2020 9:17 am

    Quoting  :

Flaws? 🤔 Tell me about it.
I have a short fuse when it comes to dealing with idiots.


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
8/12/2020 9:48 am

    Quoting anastasia666:
    Dear Paul,

    Thank you for sharing this insightful blog post...A very good read indeed. I am so glad I found your blog.

    I'd love to hear how our members here deal with this..As more folks " hide " behind their monitor to attack or create endless fake member profiles to abuse the site & members it is getting difficult to figure out what is the right or wrong way to handle abusive members..

    Looking forward to hearing how Temptz " handles " this as opposed to the ideas you suggested.

    Happy Tues,

    Ana6
Ana, you know hun all Paul's ideas are great and that's how most should be handled. But then there are ones that need some special attention to get your point across. And I am sure you know what I am talking about.

There is a time to be nice and then there is time to be a "nice bitch"...

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
8/12/2020 11:47 am

    Quoting PonyGirl1965:
    Drama queens are such a drag. I laugh at them
Have you ever seen a play? Of course you have
This is just another

Andy that's ok right? 😮


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
8/13/2020 5:47 am

    Quoting  :

True... about mind games but they have their place.
I certainly do it infrequently with people I know and respect.


rick315875 65M

8/13/2020 11:10 am

I have two main strategies as far as insults and name-calling. As you have mentioned. Humor and keeping oneself above. Not lowering yourself to their level. I just tell them I have no interest in being like you.


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
8/13/2020 5:54 pm

    Quoting rick315875:
    I have two main strategies as far as insults and name-calling. As you have mentioned. Humor and keeping oneself above. Not lowering yourself to their level. I just tell them I have no interest in being like you.
Good strategies, both of them and worthy allies! 👍
I've got a quick temper and THAT one wrangles my good-intentioned purpose... sometimes. I'll count to ten next time and see if that calms the boiling blood. 🤔


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
8/14/2020 5:04 pm

    Quoting  :

Yep. True about that temper thing.
We've got to watch it! 👍


anastasia666 46F
2231 posts
8/15/2020 3:48 am

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    Ana, you know hun all Paul's ideas are great and that's how most should be handled. But then there are ones that need some special attention to get your point across. And I am sure you know what I am talking about.

    There is a time to be nice and then there is time to be a "nice bitch"...
Dear Tmptrzz,

Hello & Happy Weekend Hugs, Hon..Hope you & your family are all doing well & safe/Healthy..I agree with you 100 % , since I discovered Paul's blog I have been enjoying his witty posts/ideas. I see exactly what you are saying about a TIME to be nice or to be " nIce bitch." Funny thing is I am known as the Little Princess, the Cupcake..Super Sweet...Bitchy is normally not in my Repertoire but as an actor, I can always summon it when needed

Forgive me my Friend as I just realized I have been incorrectly called you " Temptz " instead of Tmptrzz...Call it short for Tempting Temptress...

Happy Weekend Hugs & Thanks for the interesting answer,

Ana6

I done made the devil a deal
He made me pretty
He made me smart


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