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Sweetshorty99 47F
8 posts
1/30/2020 6:34 pm
Hooking up hang ups
[ Still trying to figure out how this site all works, like the different blogs, messages, who you can view or talk to , who you can;t, leaving, reading messages.....etc . Howerever i am enjoying what I have been able to have access to so far. I do know that my man and I are looking to add that bit of spice that I....i mean we have been craving. No strings, no feelings, or getting attached or hooking up outside of agreed interactions. Managing to be close and casual but still disconnected enough to not interfere with our everyday lives. Good sex can easily confuse the heart and mind that it is something that it's not . We all know that a REALLY good orgasm can make you "fall in love" with a piece of tail, so in my opinion, being honest and mature is key to successful hook ups. Which honestly would be Very new to me. If there is anyone who has experienced "complications or confusion" about what goes on , please add any tips or advice on how to avoid situations that could come and how to be sure to keep that balance within . I would love to hear your comments
hornytexass 67M
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1/30/2020 8:31 pm

 I just take it one date (for want of a better term) at a time. I have some personal rules, but just let the relationship develop in a way that is mutually satisfactory.


Sweetshorty99 replies on 2/1/2020 6:55 am:
That was a short and simple response, yet very useful. Thanks

tsn4fun2 48M/46F  
257 posts
1/30/2020 10:12 pm

 Honestly I see this whole experience of hookups going like the best adventure park in the world. You know, the one that has your FAVORITE rollercoaster. Yeah... if everything goes really good you’re going to want a season pass and not the dreaded day pass but you both know it’s just the ride you want to experience. As long as y’all are honest and trust each other wholeheartedly I don’t see any issues coming up! Just have your fun together and go home to have some more. Of course y’all should be wary about the ones who fall in love with y’all but.... there are ways to deter that.


Sweetshorty99 replies on 2/1/2020 7:14 am:
I like your analogy. Don't worry about getting hung up on the whole park and just focus on the ride you do get to take, and enjoy it while it lasts. Shortly after i posted that I saw something on a wifeswap post that had a list of some simple but basic rules to follow,all which I believe, if everyone is on the same page, intentions and outcomes, honesty and maturity, setting your own subtle rules to be respectfully followed should end in having an experience that no one feels uncomfortable about,that you found very much enjoyable and glad you had the eexperience

Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
1/31/2020 2:16 am

 Orgasms produce a series of chemical reactions that give the person having an orgasm a feeling of euphoria. This could induce infatuation.... but nobody is "Falling in love" .

Talk about this, before you have sex. Make sure they are mature enough to understand what will happen, what will be felt.....problem also is; Are you mature enough to understand and convey.


Sweetshorty99 replies on 2/1/2020 7:43 am:
I certainly appreciate you commenting on my post. This is all very new to me. I have the sex part down no problem and i do want some kind of connection first but i aint just gonna fall in love with one hot rondevouse , i can keep my head and especially my heart sepeeate from the action. I have just wondered of some people who may lead with their hearts and thier minds first in order to just simply have sex. Not everyone who decides to share or be shared with someone else is prepard for the level of intensituy that comes with. I just believe that there are people who want the experience but may not be mature enough to handle the intensity of the situation. That some people can't have one without the other , they want it to be extra special so they become to connected and end up becoming more than just casual sex qith some cool people that you met and hung out with a fee times .I would imagine that to become an uncomfortable situation to have to address. Im sure someone with experience can tell if feeling are starting to catch and would begin esclidading the situation in a mature fashion... I'm just saying it has to be something that occasionally happens , just no one ever talks about it.

boobwhisperer69 61M  
8322 posts
1/31/2020 8:46 am

 Same post from someone in India!!!!!?????


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
2/1/2020 2:43 pm

 When you just want casual sex, you don't look for a connection. Looking for a connection starts trouble, when you want the sex to be just casual. Because when you look for a connection, they recognize you are looking for a connection, and they start looking for a connection, and this leads to thinking you want something more serious than casual.

In terms of "Feelings", the heart and the brain are not separate, like church and state are separate.

When people have sex, the brain is always affected. There is no way to know how a person will react after sex. There is no way to know how yourself will react after being with a person.

I have just wondered of some people who may lead with their hearts and thier minds first in order to just simply have sex....Oh yes.... lots of people say they have to feel something first before having sex. Mostly women will say that... but there are men who were raised by their mothers , those men will say they need to feel something first. Some people can avoid becoming infatuated after sex. It's not easy for the lesser experienced.

As I said, you have to talk about this , with the persons you choose to have casual sex with.


needsumluvn54 65M
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2/3/2020 2:22 am

 Hello! I would like to hookup with you and see how things go..could be very exciting for both of us. Let me know,if you would be interested. Jeff
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Behappy538 63M  
4 posts
2/3/2020 7:54 am

 go with the flow, but always trust your instincts in any given situation. most (but certainly not all) people i have actually been able to meet on this site are well meaning, and reasonable


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