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Posted:Aug 26, 2007 8:59 pm
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A friend of mine asked this question in her post LOVE What exactly is it or does it mean, and this is what I have to say about that subject.
"There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet, which fails so regularly, as love." - Erich Fromm
Sadly enough this is very true, but why??
Well, because many people believe love is a sensation that magically generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. Which is kind of the reason many people are single... I believe that love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating another's goodness.
I know, you're thinking "Goodness?? what the hell are you talking about?" After all, most love stories don't feature a couple enraptured with each other's ethics. ("I'm captivated by your values!" he told her passionately. "And I've never met a man with such morals!" she whispered.) hahaha
You see, what we value most in ourselves, we value most in others. If, as many believe, God created us to see ourselves as good (hence our need to either rationalize or regret our wrongdoings). So, too, we seek goodness in others. Nice looks, an engaging personality, intelligence, and talent (all of which count for something) may attract you, but goodness is what moves you to love.
The truth is that love is a choice, you don't fall in and out of love, I honestly never understood those phrases... The picture that always enters my mind when someone says "I've fallen in love" is someone tripping and falling face first in a hole on the ground! Now that can't be pretty! The "falling out of love" sounds too much like you fell off the bed one night. It may just be me, but I think that, when you love someone, is because you've made that choice. You've made the choice to concentrate on the good traits of the person, and have chosen to open your heart and love said person because of that person's goodness. And people make that choice all the time, even without them being aware of it, you never hear someone say: "Oh wow, this guy is so rude, stupid, ignorant and a complete asshole... I am so in love!" or, "yeah man, this chick is a the nagging queen, she's a total bitch, and lazy too... My dream come true! I am so falling for her!" at the beginning of ANY relationship... you always hear the "goodness" that this person sees in the other person, and that's how they choose to love this person.
I also know from personal experience that those who say they've never been in love are probably right, simply because they have not made the choice to love, they expect love to fall out of the sky and hit them like a rock or something, but think about it, if love comes from appreciating goodness, it doesn't just happen - you make it happen. Love is active. You create it. Just focus on the good in another person (and everyone has some). If you can do this easily, you'll love easily. Of course, it's wise to remember that just like everyone else, this person will have flaws, and will make mistakes, the important thing to ask your self is, "can this persons goodness out weight his flaws?" If the answer is yes, you might be on to something.
Now, for the feeling, I can't quite describe... If I had to describe it, it would be a bittersweet mixture of fear, courage, happiness, sorrow, apathy, sensibility, frustration and gratitude... basically a sense of heaven and hell both at the same time... It's that, need... When he/she not around, you yearn to hear his/her voice, once you hear his/her voice, you yearn to see his/her, once you see his/her, you yearn to touch him/her, once you touch him/her, you don't ever want to let go.
Yeah, I've meditated on this very question a whole lot... can't you tell?! lol
What are your thoughts on this subject?
~*~ Miztress Nessa ~*~
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Posted:Aug 25, 2007 1:07 am
Last Updated:Aug 28, 2007 11:41 pm
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You know, I am getting sick and tired of getting the run around EVERY single time I turn around!
For those of you who do not know this, my last job called me up and said they want me to go back, even set me up with an orientation date and all... I went, everything was going right, then, everything went downhill from there. First, someone broke into my car a few months ago, and stole my purse which I left there by accident. I don't have my social security card, I don't have my residence card, or my passport, in order for me to get a job, I need to have all of that... or at least I thought I needed all of that, come to find out, I've been a citizen this whole time, since my mother became a U.S. Citizen, but since NO one told her, my sister and have spent money getting and renewing residency cards, was a complete waste of time. Or so I was told, Today, I finally got my drivers license back, then I go to get my passport, thinking I've got everything I need. Come to find out, they STILL want me to go get a residency card so that I can get my U.S. Passport. Now, I know I'm kind of slow, but if I'm a citizen, why on earth do I need a residency card? I don't know, to me that just sounds plain stupid... but what do I know, right?
Anyway, as if that wasn't enough, I also got a call from the job today, telling me that for some reason, they can't verify my work history... and therefore, I may not get the job after all... Yeah, well, that's odd since they didn't seem to have a problem verifying it last year!!
I don't know, it seems to me like every time I begin to see the light at the end of this tunnel, right when I'm almost there, and I can almost see it, something just pulls me back to where I started. Or a new obstacle appears in my way that just seems to block the way out!
Do you ever feel like that??
What was the biggest tunnel you were ever stuck in?? The one you just couldn't see the way out of?
~*~ Miztress Nessa ~*~
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Posted:Aug 21, 2007 12:05 am
Last Updated:Sep 8, 2007 3:35 pm
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I am HAPPY to report that Customer Support FINALLY got one of my groups back up and running! It's about time too! I have to say this was one of the worse glitches Hookup.Date Naughty Affair Dating has had in the time I've been here, I hope that they finally got it fixed and we wont have to deal with that again. In the mean time, I'm thinking about taking some precautions in case this does happen again. Anyway, it's about time something good happened to me!
Let's hope this is the beginning of all good things coming my way!
~*~ Miztress Nessa ~*~
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Posted:Aug 19, 2007 8:38 pm
Last Updated:Aug 28, 2007 9:19 pm
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[font face=Papyrus]Today, I decided to forget about all of my frustrations... just go out, hang out with my , and have a good time for a change... without worrying about my job, or my house, or my car, or anything else... just go out, and see my have a good time. A friend of mine invited my and I to the Air and Water show at the lake front, and we went, had a pretty good time, it was our first time going, and we didn't really get to see much, it got cancelled because of the weather, but what we did get to see was well worth it, my had a great time, and so did I. After that we went to see a movie, "Stardust", it was pretty good, from what I can remember, I kept falling asleep cuz I am just so freggin' tired, I stayed up late last night trying to get my house cleaned and everything, and I was woken up today at 5 am. But overall, I'd say it was a very good day. I don't know why we haven't done it before... But we're definitely doing it again!
So... How was your day?? Or your weekend?? Or even your week?!
~*~ Miztress Nessa ~*~
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Posted:Aug 18, 2007 3:26 pm
Last Updated:Aug 28, 2007 9:13 pm
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As many of you may or may not know but my group has been on Denied status for over a week now. Both my associate moderator and I have been calling Customer Support EVERY day and we get told the same thing over and over again, that someone will call back within 24 hours or less. So far, NO ONE has called back, and the group is still not fixed, so finally, I emailed customer, this is the email I sent them.
Sender: Miztress_Nessa
To: SiteSupport
Date: Aug 18, 2007 2:28 am PST
Hello,
The reason I am writing this email to you is because I have exhausted all other means of communication with Hookup.Date Naughty Affair Dating at no avail, I am hoping that your department will be able to assist me.
I should start from the beginning.
About a month ago, Hookup.Date Naughty Affair Dating deleted my profile, even though I was a paid member, they said they couldn't get it back, that I would have to create another profile. I am not the only one that this happened to by the way, but I went ahead and created a new profile, but I also told them that I had a group, which needed a Moderator while I re-did my profile, because I couldn't make such changes someone from technical support finally called me after 2 weeks and finally put my associate moderator as the main moderator of the group, however, ever since that happened, the group has been put on a denied status and we can NOT get it fixed, we managed to put me back as Moderator, but I am still unable to update the group and get it out of denied status. My associate moderator and I have been calling customer service for almost a week now, and we've been told that someone will call us back within 24, 12, even 2 hours, and so far, NO ONE has called either of us back.
This group is a very large group, and a lot of the people in that group are paid members, to be honest with you, they are getting very frustrated and coming to me and the associate moderator asking what's going on with it. At this time, we're unable to answer their questions because, as I said before, NO ONE has called us to let us know what's going on, or when they plan on having it fixed!
All of this started because of a screw up Hookup.Date Naughty Affair Dating had, and I honestly am tired of having to call every day and be told that someone's going to call me back and they never do.
I honestly don't know if you can help, but if there's anything you can do on this issue, it would be greatly appreciate it. As I stated before, this group has over 5000 members... Yes, OVER five thousand members... and I would really appreciate any assistance you can offer.
The name of the group is "Folks That Love Sex"
Thank you.
This is the response I received.
Dear Miztress_Nessa,
We apologize for this. Please resubmit the group to be reviewed by updating it and we will approve it. Currently our internal admin page for groups is broken and we can't approve it until you replace it back into our review queue yourself. Thanks.
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Well!! Isn't that something?!? As I stated in my email... I DID THAT AND IT'S NOT WORKING!!!
Then I got on the phone with Customer Service again, and the lady that I was talking to apparently didn't have a clue as to what she was talking about, first, she told me that this was an abuse problem, then she tells me that this is the first time that this issue has been reported so she has to send it to technical support and it will take a minimum of 2 weeks to get it resolved. Then, she put me on indefinite hold!
I have to say, now, this is ONLY my opinion, but I HONESTLY think that Hookup.Date Naughty Affair Dating has gone to hell! The customer service and glitches this site experiences are worse than when I'm on my fucking period!! I also think that the main reason for this is because they don't care what type of customer support they offer since they're making their money anyway! I think that if ALL OF US who are or have paid for these crappy services were to cancel their gold and silver memberships, and go on strike for about a month, MAYBE just MAYBE Hookup.Date Naughty Affair Dating will get their act straight and at least attempt to provide a somewhat decent service. I honestly would NOT ever pay for another gold membership on this site if things continue like this... I can easily go to another site to find people to have fun with and I probably wouldn't have to deal with half of the problems this website has. The main issue, I believe, is that Hookup.Date Naughty Affair Dating has gotten so BIG so FAST and they just honestly can't handle it anymore.
So, I propose we all go on strike! And let them know that they could potentially LOSE all of their members, you know, money talks, and it tends to talk louder to big companies when they DON'T get it!
So... Who's all with me?!?  lol
~*~ Miztress Nessa ~*~
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Posted:Aug 16, 2007 9:35 pm
Last Updated:Aug 28, 2007 9:12 pm
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As I was trying to sleep last night I came to the conclusion that I am absolutely, completely, positively, entirely, totally obsessed with them!!
The thought of them... so soft, yet hard... so familiar.. yet different every time... perfectly shaped, regardless of size... the thought of them one next to the other... temptingly calling out to me... waiting for me to touch them... caress them... rub my fingers all over them... feel them harden under my hands... feel the warmth and smoothness of them.
So yeah, I have to admit... I did touch them... I felt them all up and caressed them until I fell asleep.... When I woke up, my hands were still on my breasts! lol
1. What are you, or have you been obsessed with?
2. What would you do to have it?
3. What would you consider a "good" obsession?
~*~ Miztress Nessa ~*~
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Posted:Aug 14, 2007 6:48 pm
Last Updated:Aug 28, 2007 9:11 pm
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You know, I've kind of started talking to old friends again... see, when I first joined Hookup.Date Naughty Affair Dating, I wasn't a very active member, why I had my hands full with my , real life, and my crew (don't ask, long story), anyway after I closed my crew down, it left a lot of free time for Hookup.Date Naughty Affair Dating, and that's when I became very active on Hookup.Date Naughty Affair Dating... and slowly but surely, I sort of stopped talking to some of my old friends... we lost contact, they were busy, I was busy... you know, life!
But I've started talking to some of those people I hadn't talked to in a while... and it really got me thinking... You never know how much someone means to you or how much you mean to someone until you two lose touch, and are not able to talk for a while... I didn't know my crew meant so much to so many... It brings a smile to my face to have all these people welcome me with open arms and ask if I'd consider bringing my crew back!! lol I know, you guys have no clue what I'm talking about... That's ok though, let's just say, I'm happy, how's that?!
1. How long have you been friends with your oldest friend?
2. Who do you wish you could catch up with?
3. What's keeping you too busy for your friends?
~*~ Miztress Nessa ~*~
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Posted:Aug 10, 2007 3:26 pm
Last Updated:May 3, 2012 5:05 pm
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Loving you is not the best thing, I clearly know it.
When there are so many other things to do, less traumatic.
Like finding different shapes on the clouds,
like going to the movies or even not doing anything at all.
Loving you is not the best thing, but I like it.
Maybe I am being a bit of a masochist, like always.
Instead of distracting my self with sports,
or with the Internet like many people do.
Loving you is not the best thing, but it is perfect,
In order to find some sense to this routine,
of being always just another citizen,
just one more.
Loving you makes me suffer, It must be luck.
Because it reminds me that I exist and I feel.
And it gives me something to think about every night,
to simply live.
Loving you is a poison that gives life.
It is a torch that ignites if it is extinguished.
It is the sublime along with stupidity.
It is what I feel and who cares.
Loving you is the truth, which lies the most.
It is the best of the worse, that has happened to me.
It is the Russian roulette of a kiss,
It is the same... only unexpected.
Loving you is a mistake... or so says a friend,
Who thinks that to be happy is to be free,
And loses sight of what uncertainty brings,
Loving you.
It is the embassy of an instant in my brain.
It is to have had hated you a couple of times.
Loving you is absurd and we know it,
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1. Does this make sense to you??
2. How would you describe the emotional turmoil that "love" or even a simple crush makes you go through??
3. When was the last time you felt all that??
4. If you had to do it again, would you? and is there anything you would do differently?
~*~ Miztress Nessa ~*~
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Posted:Aug 6, 2007 5:58 pm
Last Updated:Jul 23, 2012 9:22 pm
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[font face=Copperplate Gothic Light]Angel eyes, you have angel eyes
Such a smile, lights up my life, ohh
You're a dream come true, now I'm holding you
And I'll never, never let you go, I will never let you go.
First time I laid my eyes upon you
All my dreams were answered
First time I kissed your tender lips
My love to you I surrendered, ohh
I'll never let you go
You're always on my mind
You're the only one for me, you're all I need
And I'll never, never let you go.
Angel eyes, my heart relies
On the love you give me
You never let me down, you're always by my side
And I'll never, never let you go, I'll never let you go.
When my heart starts to crumble
And the tears start to fall
You hold me close with tender lovin'
And give me strength to carry on, ohh, ohh
I'll never let you go
You're always on my mind
You're the only one for me, you're all I need
And I'll never, never let you go.
I'll never let you go
You're always on my mind
You're the only one for me, you're all I need
And I'll never, never let you go, ohh, ohh
And I'll never, never let you go.
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I have to say, that's one of the most beautiful songs I've ever heard... It says so much... yet... Well, let me just ask this... If someone dedicated this song to you...
What would you think? or say?? Or better yet, how would you react?
~*~ Miztress Nessa ~*~
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Posted:Aug 6, 2007 2:03 am
Last Updated:Aug 28, 2007 8:51 pm
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Have you ever met someone who you were very attracted to, and you really hit it off, but the timing was just not right?? If you had another chance with this person... and timing seemed right... would you go for it??
I spent most of the tonight, talking to someone I had not talked to in about 15 years... But I remember we used to talk a lot back then, and when we met... It seemed we really liked each other.. of course we were pretty young back then, and I'm not quite sure what happened, I don't remember why we didn't end up seeing more of each other... but if I'm not mistaken, the timing was just not right at the time... We finally got to talk again tonight... and while I know people change and he's not the same young boy I had a crush on... I'm sure he knows I'm not that same girl he once met... but, while talking to him, I found my self wondering... How come we didn't go for it?
From what I remember about him... what his sister has told me about him... and the conversation that we had tonight, I can honestly say that, if I was to have the opportunity, I would definitely like to attempt to build a relationship with him. He seems to be everything I look for in a man, so far... but I have... questions... fears... issues, that I honestly don't know if I've gotten over some of them, and if I'll ever get over the rest.
For example... I just got out of a relationship about two months ago... and I'm still getting over that, I wouldn't want to "use" this guy to get over my past relationship... so, how do I know that this interest is not out of loneliness and hurt? And if it's not... How do I allow my self to trust him? I wouldn't want to be just "this girl he was with once", but I'm sure he's been hurt... and I've been hurt... how do you put aside all the wrongs everyone's caused you and start with a clean slate to give this new person a real opportunity?
Now, I'm not talking about us jumping the gun and moving in together and all that... I mean, I am interested in getting to know him more and he did hint every now and then that he's still interested, it's still WAY too soon to think in anything serious... but it's my firm belief that trust, is the base of ALL relationships... And in order for us, to really get to know each other again and for us to build any kind of trust... you have to open your self to that... you have to make your self vulnerable by willingly giving that trust, and risk getting a slap in the face when that person breaks your trust... How do you talk your self into that after you've been hurt so much, for so long??
Can it be done?
Is it even worth the risk??
How do you know if you're ready to take that risk?
~*~ Miztress Nessa ~*~
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Posted:Aug 3, 2007 5:57 pm
Last Updated:Aug 28, 2007 8:48 pm
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Today, I got a letter in the mail, and it says:
"Dear Nessa"
"After carefully reading and discussing your poem, our Selection Committe has certified your poem as a semi-finalist in our Internation Open Poetry Contest. Your poem will automatically be entered into the final competition held in August 2007. As a semi-finalist, you have an excellent chance of winning one of 104 cash or gift prizes.
And that's not all...
In celebration of the unique talent that you have displayed, we also wish to publish your poem on it's own page in what promises to be one of the most highly regarded collections of poetry we have ever published...
Immortal Verses
Immortal Verses, scheduled for publication in Fall 2007, will be a classic, coffee-table quality hard bound volume -- printed in two colors on fine-milled paper specifically selected to last for generations.
Your poem has automatically been advanced to the final competition-- so you do not need to take further action on the contest at this time. However, regarding the publication of your poetry, you must proofread your poem, which appears on the enclosed Artist's Proof. Please carefully review your poem for typographical errors and make any necessary changes. The Artist's Proof also verifies that "Unknown" is your original work of art. And Nessa, let me assure you, your poem remains your property--Immortal Verses is copyrighter as a compilation. The copyright notice is in your name. This means that you retain the copyright to your own work of art.
Again, congratulations, Nessa. We feel you have a special talent and look forward to the publication of your poem.
Sincerely,
Managing Editor"
I don't know if it's true or not, but, it I have to admit, the thought brought a smile to my face and the hope of things to come.
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1. What's the last nice, unexpected thing that happened to ya?
2. When did you last smiled?
3. What kind of things bring you hope?
~*~ Miztress Nessa ~*~
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Posted:Aug 3, 2007 5:00 pm
Last Updated:Aug 28, 2007 7:51 pm
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This is to let EVERYONE know that due to an Hookup.Date Naughty Affair Dating fuck up, my old account was deleted my Hookup.Date Naughty Affair Dating. They are saying they will not restore it... I was also told that a supervisor would call me back to discuss the issue further, but the supervisor was not very helpful.
I will be using this handle from now on, or at least until they get it resolved. IF they even get it resolved. If they don't get it resolved, then I guess this is my new handle here.
In which case, I've already caught up on my blog posts... that's about the ONLY thing I can get back from my old account... my gold membership, my VIP membership, my group... those things I'm still working on. Perhaps I should start a riot? lol
Anyway! If you were on my friends list, please, re-add me, I had too many people to keep track of. Thanks.
~*~ Miztress Nessa ~*~
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Posted:Aug 2, 2007 1:27 pm
Last Updated:Sep 4, 2016 4:37 am
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Day Dream Part 1
I kiss my way up your chest... Once I've reached your mouth, you slowly move to the side allowing me to lay on the bed, you begin kissing me and caressing my body, touching my most inner places, your fingers moving with such softness and ease that I haven't quite experienced in a long time. Your tongue circling my hard nipples, as your hands gently continue to rub my now hard clit. You slowly begin to move lower down my body, while at the same time inserting a fingers in my dripping wet tight pussy. My moaning gets louder as you push your fingers deep into my pussy, hitting my G-spot just right... My hands find your hard cock next to me, and guide you into my mouth again, The mixed sensations, and the feeling of your hard dick in my mouth, send me over the edge, you can tell I'm so close, you move your fingers faster, harder, deeper with each stroke, I grab on to the sheets, my body begins to shake, my back arches, and with one long, loud moan, my pussy releases my juices... squirting on your fingers and hand. As if reading my mind you don't stop, the long hard strokes continue, making my orgasm even longer, harder... better!
When I am almost done, you gently put your tongue between my legs, massaging my hot throbbing clit, licking my womanly juices off my cunt... flicking your soft, wet tongue on my pierced clit... teasing all of my sensitive parts, the ecstasy of the first orgasm is still very present in my body, and it takes very little effort on your part to get me to that second orgasm... but by then, my body can't take anymore, I want to feel you inside me, I need to feel you deep in me... still shaking from the last orgasm, the only words I can manage to somewhat whisper are “Fuck me!”
You look at me, and reach for the condom... seeing your big hard cock in all it's glory makes me even hotter, the time that it takes you to put on the condom feels almost like an eternity, although I can tell you're quite the expert, you take the condom in your hand, and slide it over the head of your cock with ease... then you grab my legs, holding them up high, you position the head of your cock on my clit, and with a slow gentle push, you slide your cock down my pussy, directly to my hole, and push your cock slowly into my cunt... I can feel the muscles in my pussy wrap around your cock, hugging your cock tightly as you push deeper and deeper as if forcing your way in. Your cock is so hard, and big, as you continue to slowly push your cock deeper and deeper into me... I can feel you reaching untouched territories... your cock gently sliding into uncharted waters, so deep within me, that no man has ever reached before.
This brand new sensation comes accompanied by light and pleasurable ache, the feeling of your cock reaching deep within me. You begin to move your hips, moving your cock in and out of my pussy, slowly at first... reaching deeper and deeper, with each stroke, making me feel the hardness of your manhood, accompanied by that ache every time you'd reach that one spot, making my body shake, my nipples harden even more... you begin to fuck me faster and faster... as my moaning grows louder, I tilt my head back and once again grab on to the sheets of the bed, hugging you with my legs I pull you to me harder as you continue to fuck me faster, harder, deeper... the words flow out of my mouth as easily as the cum begins to overflow my pussy... and I beg “Oh god!! Oh yes!! FUCK!! Please don't stop!! Don't stop! Don't stop!!! Oh YESS!!!” As if in perfect harmony, I feel your cock push against my pussy walls, the feeling is all too familiar, yet unknown... the throbbing of your cock threatens to send me over the edge, I go with the flow, allow my senses to be overtaken by the sensation that rushes up and down my body, and once again, I feel the uncontrollably urge to cum... as my pussy walls tighten around your cock I hear your moaning increase along with mine, you're fucking me harder now, and with one hard, fast stroke of your cock into my pussy, our bodies begin to shake uncontrollably as we reach the most amazing orgasm I've ever experienced.
The screams of the room bring me back to reality, I'm not sure how long I stood there in front of that fan, and I slowly move away, there's way too many things to remember, too many new sensations that I experienced during those 7 hours we spent together, enough to keep me looking forward to the next time.
As I take my seat in the front of the room... my lips slowly turn upward, forming a devilish smile as I realized that my short period of daydreams and flashbacks have made me, yet again, dripping wet.
~*~ M!ztress Nessa ~*~
(Originally Posted Jul 29, 2007 4:17 pm)
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