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Posted:Aug 19, 2017 9:27 am
Last Updated:May 28, 2024 3:13 pm
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Not talking about wanking is not just symptomatic of Britishness however – there doesn’t seem to be any shortage of men willing to talk about taking pleasure into their own hands. No, talking about wanking is something that women don’t do because to do so is to see ourselves as active participants in sexual activity rather than a passive recipient of male attention. Views on women’s sexuality grow ever more complicated in an age of internet porn and constant Cosmo articles telling us how to please our man and have better orgasms while maintaining a perfect figure and work life balance. We are supposed to be experts at giving blow jobs yet not practice on too many people lest we become sluts. We can never be sure how many men we have to sleep with before we become a slut and the preferred option seems to be a very informed virgin who has been employing a banana as a make-shift penis in order to perfect her technique. Be available but not too available. Dress sexy but don’t show too much flesh. Like sex but don’t like it so much that you want to go out and have it with lots of people because then you will be dirty and nobody will want you any more.
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Posted:Jul 3, 2017 7:38 am
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2017 10:33 am
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, so let me respond to it in a direct and succinct manner...men are wild about getting their whistles blown. And there are quite a few reasons for this. First of all, it feels really good. There's something about being enveloped by the warm wetness of an insistent mouth, that really gets our blood boiling. "But don't you get the same sensation being nestled inside a moist vagina?" Yes...if your vagina has a tongue. You see, oral sex is more of an ensemble piece than is vaginal sex. A good blow job requires the mutual cooperation of lips, tongue, saliva, hand, and on very rare occasions, a receptive gullet. Tough for your nether regions to compete with such a well-oiled oral team.
Secondly, oral sex is virtually stress-free for us. Unlike regular sex where we have to be concerned about being hard enough, big enough, and long-lasting enough, "lingual love" carries with it no such angst-inducing pressures. We are literally free to relax and enjoy ourselves, knowing that our orgasm will arrive at the appropriate time, no matter how soon that is.
Thirdly, in oral sex, the voyeur in us really has a chance to come into play. Unless we have mirrors or video recording devices in our bedroom, we never really get to visually experience "normal sex" when we are actively participating in it. But with oral sex, we have the opportunity to see you work your magic or our private parts. We get to watch you pleasure us, which only further enhances our enjoyment of the act. It's like we're starring in our own little pornographic film...and you know how much we enjoy our dirty movies.
Fourthly, oral sex is all about recreation, not procreation. The goal is pleasure not progeny. In other words, it's an opportunity to have a good time without the risk of eighteen years of financial commitment. It's orgasm without a price tag – and we really like that.
And lastly, your willingness to unselfishly "service us" in this manner makes us feel good about ourselves. You're catering to our needs without demanding anything in return. Thus oral sex is a treat, of sorts, a little bonus given lovingly to us by someone who wants nothing more than to make us feel good. And what's not to like about that.
I am not, however, saying that you must engage in this sexual practice in order to satisfy your man. If the idea of engaging in such an act repulses you, and your vagina has been sexually doing all the heavy lifting for years without complaints from your man, then "why fix it if it ain't broke?" On the other hand, if you're looking to spice up your sexual repertoire with a performance piece that's sure to earn you a standing ovation from your man's sexual apparatus, then a blowjob is the ticket.
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Posted:May 29, 2017 3:07 am
Last Updated:Aug 19, 2017 9:27 am
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Okay, take a breath and hear me out. If you’re reasonable about your desires, your wife should be able to provide you with a satisfying sex life. If you’re reasonable and dissatisfied your wife probably should be doing something different. The thing here for you to focus on is the issue of reasonable.
I hear from women who almost never say no, who want and enjoy sex, who say their husband is upset about their sex life because she doesn’t like doing oral. Or anal, or some certain position, or sex in the car parked in a deserted parking lot. Then there are the men who complain they only get sex five times a week and they really need it twice a day.
It’s not a question of what a guy wants being right or wrong. Perhaps there is nothing wrong with any of the things he wants, but the list as a whole is just too much for her. Or, perhaps some other woman would be fine with what he wants, but it’s not reasonable for his wife.
I’m all for variety and trying new things in bed… or wherever. But that’s the frosting, not the cake. Asking for frosting when the cake hasn’t been baked is a mistake, and it’s a good way to scare a woman away from sex.
One common factor in this is porn use. Porn exposes us to a wide array of sex acts. Some of those are not acceptable for a Christian couple, and some are not possible for real people. Still, much of what is shown in porn is not wrong and much of it is enjoyed by some couples. But that does not mean your wife should be all about doing it or that she could enjoy it if she “just tried”. There is a huge variety in what people enjoy sexually, and most women have a narrower range than most men.
Unless your wife is pushing for variety, your best plan is cut way back on your list of desired sex acts. Pay attention to how your wife reacts when you suggest or mention certain things and drop those she’s not clearly into. Your goal is a list that includes things she is doing and enjoying and a couple of things that will be a bit of a stretch for her. Be slow about adding things to your list, and be good about removing things if she won’t try them or seems not to care for them.
You might be able to get more of what you want if you push, but doing this means your wife will be doing things she doesn’t enjoy, which will reduce her enjoyment of sex. Getting what you like at the cost of her liking sex less is a really, really bad plan. It’s also unsustainable. Plenty of men have ruined their sex lives this way.
Radical Idea: Rather than focusing on your sexual satisfaction, how about focusing on making sex incredible for her? Do what she enjoys, and move in the direction she indicates. If you make sex better for her she will be interested in doing it more often, and in time she should be willing to stretch herself a bit.
Necessary Caveat: If your wife is anti-sex, what I’ve said here is wise, but probably won’t result in any changes. If you’re in this situation, honestly ask yourself if you have contributed to your wife being anti-sex. Have you pushed her for things she didn’t want to do? Have you let her do things you knew she was not enjoying? If you helped create the problem you need to confess and apologise.
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